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sweetlara22's review against another edition

DID NOT FINISH

my roommate wanted me to read this book. after putting it off for over a year, I finally picked it up. I put it back down after 1 chapter and won't pick it up again. there is some good advice if you need some confidence building, but otherwise, it's full of contradicting information like don't play games, but here's what you should do for men to like you. I was going to push through it for her, but I just can't. please don't waste your time with this book, I'm sure there are plenty of others, written more recently, that have actual valuable information on how to love yourself and not be a bitch to snag a man.
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breesteiger's review against another edition

DID NOT FINISH

It’s lowkey misogynistic. Not my vibe 
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For the time this book came out back in 2002, this is so ahead of it's time. Most of this information is still valid today!

Just a good reminder to value yourself and your goals.
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I found this book to be uplifting, self-empowering, and overall a funny enjoyable read. Some words, phrases, and examples were a bit dated (the book was published in 2009) but I believe that the core concepts and messaging were still very relevant. Lots of great advice on self-worth and standing strong on your own. Would definitely recommend!
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editing this review because while this book is quite informative about a lot of things, and does give almost sound advice, real intimacy should not cause you to shrink or micro-analyse every single detail of your partner. Sure, I agree that some things being said on here are genuinely interesting in a way to note how others function, but I’m also someone who believes that you can’t find real connection trying to be less of you. That’s a vicious cycle with no end point. 

Take it with a grain of salt. This book was what I needed to hear, after getting out of a less-than-ideal situationship where I was way too nice. I don't agree with everything it says, especially because it came out many years ago, but I can still appreciate the advice she gives about holding your own and not taking people's crap. Wish I had read it years ago.

I love this book! I just wish I could remember all the good advice in it when needed!