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The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
658 reviews for:
The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
Such great information on why people cheat and what we can do to keep our relationships healthy
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I read this for work! I had a client be cheated on and debating what they wanted to do next, and this book was helpful for understanding the situation from all sides.
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Perel stresses that the impulse to protect your union is natural but also that you shouldn’t enforce security measures such as checking phone bills, banning opposite sex friends, etc. She suggests that doing so actually can have the impact of enticing an affair. She shares that fidelity is never guaranteed and that if you know this and accept it relationships are better. Perel shares that the best relationships have aspects of affairs in them including variety, eroticism, honesty, etc. I recommend for those considering long term relationships/ marriages and those who are currently in them, as well as those who have experienced infidelity.
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god i love it when women who r therapists and also the coolest write books
I've never cheated or been cheated on to the best of my knowledge, nor do I have concerns about it in my relationship. However, I read a relationship article written by the author and really enjoyed and decided to read her book. I was very impressed with her writing, her credentials, her assessments on a complex subject, and her relationship advice. For anyone who finds themself in such a situation, I believe they would find this book very enlightening.
A very complete look at a subject that all too often we don't talk about. I found Esther's presentation of the subject line of be very complete and interesting to see how it has been viewed over time and by various societies.
Esther Perel is an amazing therapist, and this shows in the candid and honest way she talks with her patients. This book gives so much insight on the various reasons people cheat in their relationships regardless of how open they may be. It's refreshing to see the amount of empathy and humanity she gives to her patients regardless of their role in infidelity. It's a controversial topic I feel many can be quick to judge on. Instead of writing people off as sex addicts or just morally flawed people, Esther says let dig deeper and analyze what the real problem is that caused the infidelity.
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