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The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
659 reviews for:
The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
Intriguing perspective on the equity of gender roles in infidelity. I guess I never thought about what compels someone to cheat on their lover and the book reveals multiple psychological factors on the question of why, which were quite fun to ponder on. Esther is excellent at storytelling- nonfiction sometimes leaves me with only a few takeaways and not an interconnected set of messages so it was refreshing to read this book and experience the latter. All the anecdotes and cases were very amusing.
challenging
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challenging
informative
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medium-paced
informative
reflective
Interesting points and reflections; it wasn't anything groundbreaking for me and I found it a bit long/repetitive but overall I wouldn't say it was a bad read. Maybe for different types of people it will provide more insight or make them reflect more.
It is a shocking book but should be read by most couples.
Since I separated I got more and more interested in the topic of relationship. And this book bring a different voice to the topic, infidelity. It made me think, I changed my mind on something and I like when this happens, I love books the challenge my way of thinking and seeing the world.
Since I separated I got more and more interested in the topic of relationship. And this book bring a different voice to the topic, infidelity. It made me think, I changed my mind on something and I like when this happens, I love books the challenge my way of thinking and seeing the world.
informative
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challenging
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Wow finished two books in one day! I listened to this as an audiobook. I was drawn to this book when taking part in a class discussion regarding the idra that monogamy is founded in colonization and is argued to be inherently racist. As a person in a monogamous relationship I wanted to learn more about the subject. The book is less about defending infidelity and more about creating liberating relationships in a consumer society. How do we confront inevitable feeling such as jealousy and inadequacy? Should we reconsider infidelity given how common it is (despite it being considered morally reprehensible in western society)? What can we say about polygamy as a response to this common practice? Perel applies a an approach similar to harm reduction. We know that people are drawn to infidelity, so how do we learn and heal or avoid it entirely by bolstering our relationships? I really enjoyed the book despite some slight repetition.
challenging
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slow-paced