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samantha_diluca_duckworth's review against another edition
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Incredible 👌 everyone should read this book!
(although the content warnings are valid and accurate, she does warn before discussing triggering things. There was a part she advised should be skipped if you need to, which I definitely should have skipped, but was definitely avoidable)
(although the content warnings are valid and accurate, she does warn before discussing triggering things. There was a part she advised should be skipped if you need to, which I definitely should have skipped, but was definitely avoidable)
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape and Sexual content
Moderate: Sexual assault and Sexual violence
fogthroughthevalley's review against another edition
funny
informative
medium-paced
4.75
Overall, a really informative and fun read. I had some of the pieces of the sexual puzzle, but this read put everything together for me.
Important takeaways:
-There are brakes as well as accelerators in sex. These can be mental/emotional or physical.
-Things that turn us on are cultural, there are no inate triggers. Pavlovian response for cis women (cis men get it from environment surrounding sudden erections).
-Arousal non-concordance: parts and mind are not on the same page (most extreme example: orgasming from SA). Parts look for sexually relevant things/actions, mind looks for context.
Something that made me laugh: What turns you on question asked in a survey had one respondent say slash fanfiction of Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy. 💀
Important takeaways:
-There are brakes as well as accelerators in sex. These can be mental/emotional or physical.
-Things that turn us on are cultural, there are no inate triggers. Pavlovian response for cis women (cis men get it from environment surrounding sudden erections).
-Arousal non-concordance: parts and mind are not on the same page (most extreme example: orgasming from SA). Parts look for sexually relevant things/actions, mind looks for context.
Something that made me laugh: What turns you on question asked in a survey had one respondent say slash fanfiction of Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy. 💀
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual assault and Rape
dollys_island's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
medium-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape
meagan2020's review against another edition
informative
slow-paced
3.5
Worth reading, just repetitive, heteronormative, and dang she loves her metaphors.
Content Warnings
Minor: Rape
kc__'s review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
slow-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Medical content and Sexual content
Minor: Toxic relationship, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Rape
toberomanced's review against another edition
emotional
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
This book should be required reading for all vulva owners and their partners. It redefines sex and confronts the societal pressures and falsehoods that are heaped upon us every day. Not only does it discuss the acts of sex itself, but it dives deep into the psychology of self-criticism, trauma, and doubt.
The takeaway from this book is simple: You are normal.
If you've ever felt broken, unworthy, or unloveable, I strongly urge you to pick up this book. It is both funny and powerful.
The takeaway from this book is simple: You are normal.
If you've ever felt broken, unworthy, or unloveable, I strongly urge you to pick up this book. It is both funny and powerful.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Sexism, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Rape, and Toxic relationship
keelin's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
5
This book is amazing. I need every cis person to read this book right now. Reasons why this is amazing:
- acknowledges the fact that this is only about cis people and that there is still a lack of research on trans people.
- discusses anatomy in detail and historically to give you a broad understanding.
- talks about sex/sexual function from a physical, mental, physiological, moral, cultural, social, and trauma related point of view.
- has real life examples and worksheets to help you process and understand the different things that are brought up and addressed.
- consistently reminds you that you are normal and what is something that should be brought to a doctor's notice.
- compares male and female sexual function and says why it is bullshit to use male standards as THE standard when both are so vastly different
And honestly there is so much more to this book that I could go on forever. I've bought it so I can reread it and annotate it and really get these lessons in my brain. I'm recommending this to every person I see because I think it is just so important.
This book is amazing. I need every cis person to read this book right now. Reasons why this is amazing:
- acknowledges the fact that this is only about cis people and that there is still a lack of research on trans people.
- discusses anatomy in detail and historically to give you a broad understanding.
- talks about sex/sexual function from a physical, mental, physiological, moral, cultural, social, and trauma related point of view.
- has real life examples and worksheets to help you process and understand the different things that are brought up and addressed.
- consistently reminds you that you are normal and what is something that should be brought to a doctor's notice.
- compares male and female sexual function and says why it is bullshit to use male standards as THE standard when both are so vastly different
And honestly there is so much more to this book that I could go on forever. I've bought it so I can reread it and annotate it and really get these lessons in my brain. I'm recommending this to every person I see because I think it is just so important.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, and Misogyny
thejuliette's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
Content Warnings
Minor: Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Rape
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