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I love how evidence based this book was! Such great content
3.5
Fairly standard advice for being a decent human seeking meaningful relationship.
I was a bit bothered by most of the anecdotes involved the solutions to problems being with the more masculine partner acquiescing or being the person to change.
Fairly standard advice for being a decent human seeking meaningful relationship.
I was a bit bothered by most of the anecdotes involved the solutions to problems being with the more masculine partner acquiescing or being the person to change.
This book provides 7 principles which help make marriage/relationships more happy and successful. Based on research, it provides information, assessments, and exercises couples can do at home to strengthen their relationship. It is, however, not without its limitations, of which the authors are aware and note. For a full review, see my blog here:
https://sisulumicounseling.com/2019/04/12/book-review-the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work-by-john-gottman-nan-silver/
https://sisulumicounseling.com/2019/04/12/book-review-the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work-by-john-gottman-nan-silver/
This book has some solid, thoughtful information, not just about the relationship in a marriage, but applicable to any healthy long-term relationship. The major gist for me was that relationships beginning with true friendship first, not only have the best chance of surviving the ups and downs, but also have a better ability to keep perspective/priorities approachable and clear.
recommended by therapist- loving it, do the work before the aisle! it’s also FASCINATING psychology and fun and easy read not the worst advice ever and super funny stories we are loving making fun of the poorly communicating couples while also learning!
Listen to book. Very detailed. A bit overwhelming. Good principles for marriage.
Wow, I think this has really affected how I see my relationship. Gottman bases his writing on years of research and counselling. Rather than advising couples to 'talk it out' or communicate, he first names up the things that will ruin a marriage (contempt, stonewalling, harsh start ups etc) and then notes the seven principles that are common to successful relationships. Being on your partner's side, solving solvable problems, catching up on your day - things I should know but let get away from me.
Nothing really earth shaking here, but good ideas/concepts to remember and return to when one needs a refresher. Good exercises and talking points for a couple.
John and I were given the newer edition of this book at our wedding. We started listening to this version on audio since we wanted audio and the library had it. It's really a wonderful book for relationship building skills. Really glad we were given it!
I research-based approach to marriage and conflict. Overall, the approach focuses on the everyday and simple encounters that couples have. I thought the principles were really straightforward and the solutions offered seemed attainable. I liked the constant references to research that either they had done or work being done in the field in general.
I listened to the first edition of the book, which sometimes seemed a bit dated. I was happy to see they published a revised version in 2015.
I listened to the first edition of the book, which sometimes seemed a bit dated. I was happy to see they published a revised version in 2015.