Good. Refreshing to read something outside of the Christian bubble of marriage books.

Despite being heteronormative and not challenging the assumption of gender roles, it's great to see some research-based advice in the mainstream relationship self-help world.

This is good, but I think it's best for a reference, not a straight read-through. It inspired some good convos, and we did some of the activities, but didn't really have time to commit to all the soul-searching and writing it required.

Good advice about marriage for sure, but the results of his research don't really feel groundbreaking.

Solid principles, but it felt more like a guide for couples with failing marriages. Perhaps a newlywed version would be more relevant?

A good friend of mine is a psychologist and said this is the book he recommends to all married couples. It is an engaging book with a lot of great advice on working through tough problems, effective communication, and finding a shared purpose. I would recommend this to any couple, whether you are a newlywed or several years into your marriage.

Reminder to self: There's an updated version of this book. Buy a copy because the many exercises and quizzes in the book are hard to do via audiobook.

Interesting concepts and I really liked the practical application sections in each- prompts for you as an individual and you as a couple to explore the concepts and make improvements in how you interact with one another.
I am especially now conscious of the little "repair attempts" (as Gottman calls them) in any conversation and I am also now aware of "turning towards" your spouse as you interact with them. Interesting. Worth a read.

Honestly, just read it. I am divorced and honestly, this book prepared me for how to establish a healthy relationship with someone who is not dependent upon me for their emotional well-being. John Gottman is a genius and an incredibly well-researched author. When his book says "Expert" - it's legitimate.
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