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4.39 AVERAGE
Nothing wrong with this book, it's just not for me and my TBR is too long to read a book that's not doing anything for me.
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Enjoyed the tangible skills in the book and exercises. I actually learned a lot and enjoyed the read. I think it will be beneficial for my clients and for me.
This book explores topics that have been essential for me over the last few years. From letting go of people pleasing, turbulent relationships with parents to rediscovering myself. While most of this wasn't new to me today, it contains lessons that already have changed my life and thus I can recommend this book, esp. To people dealing with people pleasing to the point it harms themselves. I hope you find growth and peace in these lessons too.
One question that changed how I thought about a lot of my own habits were: who's peace am I keeping? (bc it's not my own.) and if that shakes something within you too. Then this book may be for you.
One question that changed how I thought about a lot of my own habits were: who's peace am I keeping? (bc it's not my own.) and if that shakes something within you too. Then this book may be for you.
Not to be dramatic, but I think this book changed my life
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Some parts really made me go WOOF. An enlightening read for recovering self proclaimed “people pleasers”.
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"For those who have kept the peace but lost themselves."
This is literally chicken soup for the anxious soul.
This book is beautifully written, filled with anecdotes, helpful strategies, and encouraging mantras. This felt less like a self-help book and more like a comforting chat with a supportive, wise friend.
"Maintaining boundaries doesn’t cause outcomes; maintaining boundaries can hasten outcomes,” meaning our consistency with our boundaries simply reveals what’s been there all along in the relationship and brings us closer to that clarity."
I particularly enjoyed the chapter on setting boundaries. While it might seem like common sense, Josephson provided a lot of great insight, particularly the reminder that setting a boundary will just dictate what you will do, not what the other person does. Someone crossing your boundary does not mean you're bad at boundaries; it just means that you're responsible for keeping your end of the promise about what will follow when that boundary is crossed. This really helped me set reasonable expectations for boundaries and avoid feeling like a failure when others disregard them.
"No one emerges from childhood unscathed, and there’s no such thing as a “perfect” parent. I like to think that a parent’s weakness becomes the child’s strength, and that’s how we evolve as a collective."
I enjoyed the thoughtful perspective on childhood and family dynamics sprinkled throughout the book. The author highlights how being raised in a performance-oriented household leads to people-pleasing and perfectionism as a plea for attention and love. It was also eye-opening to see that even while extremely goal-driven, many people-pleasers are so riddled with low self-esteem that their accomplishments seem minor to them. The "If even I could achieve it, it's probably not that impressive" mentality has followed me my whole life, and I strongly relate to the author's reflection on this being a mechanism for undervaluing one's success.
And the most important reminder of all: "You're doing enough."
Thank you, NetGalley and Simon & Schuster, for the opportunity to read an advanced reader's copy in exchange for my honest feedback.
This is literally chicken soup for the anxious soul.
This book is beautifully written, filled with anecdotes, helpful strategies, and encouraging mantras. This felt less like a self-help book and more like a comforting chat with a supportive, wise friend.
"Maintaining boundaries doesn’t cause outcomes; maintaining boundaries can hasten outcomes,” meaning our consistency with our boundaries simply reveals what’s been there all along in the relationship and brings us closer to that clarity."
I particularly enjoyed the chapter on setting boundaries. While it might seem like common sense, Josephson provided a lot of great insight, particularly the reminder that setting a boundary will just dictate what you will do, not what the other person does. Someone crossing your boundary does not mean you're bad at boundaries; it just means that you're responsible for keeping your end of the promise about what will follow when that boundary is crossed. This really helped me set reasonable expectations for boundaries and avoid feeling like a failure when others disregard them.
"No one emerges from childhood unscathed, and there’s no such thing as a “perfect” parent. I like to think that a parent’s weakness becomes the child’s strength, and that’s how we evolve as a collective."
I enjoyed the thoughtful perspective on childhood and family dynamics sprinkled throughout the book. The author highlights how being raised in a performance-oriented household leads to people-pleasing and perfectionism as a plea for attention and love. It was also eye-opening to see that even while extremely goal-driven, many people-pleasers are so riddled with low self-esteem that their accomplishments seem minor to them. The "If even I could achieve it, it's probably not that impressive" mentality has followed me my whole life, and I strongly relate to the author's reflection on this being a mechanism for undervaluing one's success.
And the most important reminder of all: "You're doing enough."
Thank you, NetGalley and Simon & Schuster, for the opportunity to read an advanced reader's copy in exchange for my honest feedback.