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4.33 AVERAGE
4.33 AVERAGE
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Interesting from a social scientist perspective and as someone seeking personal answers about navigating nonmonogamy. I know that attachment theories are all the rage at the moment, but the author does a great job of discussing pros and cons of labels, assuring the reader that attachment styles are not rigid and that each type has strengths in addition to perceived weaknesses.
I see some reviewers saying this is a bit outdated, but I don't know enough about the main topic to comment on that; it's at least a good introduction.
I see some reviewers saying this is a bit outdated, but I don't know enough about the main topic to comment on that; it's at least a good introduction.
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Every human should read this book.
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I took my time with this book and really spent a lot of time thinking about my own relationship and others and it was really healthy and really informative.
I also did the workbook along with it and that was great for me. I’m not a very reflective person and I don’t love journaling and I still felt like it was a good use of my time and I think that anyone who’s thinking about being poly in any sense of the word could benefit from this book.
I do think it’s starting to become slightly outdated, which is true of any kind of book like this, but I still think most of it rings true and I still got a lot out of the book.
I also did the workbook along with it and that was great for me. I’m not a very reflective person and I don’t love journaling and I still felt like it was a good use of my time and I think that anyone who’s thinking about being poly in any sense of the word could benefit from this book.
I do think it’s starting to become slightly outdated, which is true of any kind of book like this, but I still think most of it rings true and I still got a lot out of the book.
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I really enjoyed Fern's setup of this book: first she outlined attachment theory, then she outlined how trauma impacts attachment styles, and finally she explained how those attachment styles may show up in non-monogamous relationships. I think this is beneficial for people in any sort of relationship (especially if you have negative preconceived notions about non-monogamy). I also think that understanding healthy non-monogamy can be beneficial in understanding friendships too! I have always been in the camp that friendships are just as valuable as romantic relationships, and this book helped me deepen that belief and understand how to love and support more people. It also pushed me to think about relationships as totally unique, and there is no standard, ideal, or even 'norm.' Also, bringing together these topics of trauma, attachment, and non-monogamy is just super cool.
