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4.33 AVERAGE
4.33 AVERAGE
While the purpose of this book is to discuss how attachment theory relates to polyamory, I really felt its reach is much wider and have found myself constantly reading passages to friends with no interest in polyamory. Overall it paints a beautiful picture of what relationships can look like when people are intentional and honest about the relationships they want, and how to achieve them from a place of secure attachment.
I particularly liked the section on non-attachment based relationships that are often deemed lesser (as youre not searching for “the one”), but when looked at through an attachment lens, their purpose is so clear.
I also loved the challenge to the supposed secure attachment in monogamous relationships, where often the relationship security is gained through structure (marriage, shared bank account, etc.) rather than the experience of the relationship. I would challenge all couples (both monogamous and non-monogamous) to really ask the question if we are secure out of our experience, and if the answer is anything other than a resounding yes, pick up Polysecure and put some of the very pragmatic tips into practice.
I particularly liked the section on non-attachment based relationships that are often deemed lesser (as youre not searching for “the one”), but when looked at through an attachment lens, their purpose is so clear.
I also loved the challenge to the supposed secure attachment in monogamous relationships, where often the relationship security is gained through structure (marriage, shared bank account, etc.) rather than the experience of the relationship. I would challenge all couples (both monogamous and non-monogamous) to really ask the question if we are secure out of our experience, and if the answer is anything other than a resounding yes, pick up Polysecure and put some of the very pragmatic tips into practice.
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Incredibly helpful at most levels of polyamory- but especially helpful if you are new to non monogamy. But even if you are monogamous you can learn SO much about yourself, communication, and emotional growth
challenging
hopeful
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inspiring
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Its import to not that depending on how you read this you may find it easier to look at others and not yourself. Also. This covers language and understanding of a way to look at attachment in polyamory. It’s not concrete, and shouldn’t be taken from a definitive perspective.
It’s full of good ways of understanding yourself . And can be very helpful.
It’s full of good ways of understanding yourself . And can be very helpful.
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lighthearted
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And here I was having never heard of attachment theory. Learned a lot about a lot.
challenging
emotional
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One of the better books on attachment theory I've read. Inclusive of all romance and love-seekers, if you have the right mindset.