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Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know
Malcolm Gladwell
3.83 AVERAGE
5.53k reviews for:
Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know
Malcolm Gladwell
3.83 AVERAGE
Audio, but really feels like an extended podcast
Well done
Well done
Nope. Although Gladwell had some interesting examples, the book read as an excuse for sexual predators and killer cops. I read the whole thing just because I couldn't believe he was actually going in the direction that it felt like he was, but it really did end up being that reductive.
This was my first book by Malcom Gladwell and I listened to it on audiobook which I think improved my reading experience a lot. The music and interviews from actual people really brought the book to life. I really enjoyed it, however, I do feel like the title is misleading as I went into this expecting something a little different. It does not give advice on how to talk to or understand strangers better. Overall it was very well written, interesting and thought-provoking but I found it lacking in depth in some aspects, especially in the cases regarding rasism and rape where miscommunication between strangers just doesn't suffice as an explanation. I feel like the stories would have been more powerful had he chosen less but gone deeper.
Incredible audiobook, mind blowing storytelling from a non-fiction.
I always love a good Gladwell. I got hooked on his Revisionist History podcast earlier this year and worried about bingeing through all of them, so I picked this up to allow myself to save a couple of podcast episodes for later. He never disappoints. Read by the author (the best!) and always an adventure in his fascinating combination of current issues, psychology/sociology. So good!
I'm not sure how I stumbled across this book. It's not what I thought. I think it was easy to read and written "smartly", as I was continuously interested in it. He talked about famous cases that intrigued you, so you wanted to know more about them. I think he definitely made some points worth thinking about and talked about some interesting studies and backgrounds. I think it's good to recognize that people are human, with feelings and thought processes, and that people aren't trying to be evil, but many times their actions are a product of human nature and their environment. However, I feel like in many of these cases, he neglects to recognize the power imbalance of almost all of these situations, when it comes to age, gender, race, or occupation. And overall ignored the systems of oppression that are built into our society and caused so many of these failings and disturbing situations. And I find that to ultimately be this books failure.
medium-paced
My first Malcom Gladwell! Definitely interested in reading more of his books. Not sure overall what to say about it, it started slow and then picked up, but just felt sooo heavy with the subject matter. I learned some really important things, but also was confused at parts with how he was trying to connect things.
Specifically the part about Jerry Sandusky was wild. I don't understand how it fit in with the rest of the book, and feel like he really just wanted to be able to write about the case. I finished that chapter feeling quite uneasy- he really wants to have people question whether or not he is guilty because of one or two conspiracy theorists? Also felt super uncomfortable with how graphic the SA parts were; it felt like he was sensationalizing a really awful subject and it made me take away less of what he was actually trying to argue or get across.
My learnings:
-great reminder that talking with strangers means talking to people with very different perspectives and backgrounds than us (I liked the example of a person from the Netherlands moving here and thinking that they way Americans behave is fake because they are effusive)
-guns are a huge public health problem, especially for police interacting with the public, crime riddled neighborhoods, and death by suicide
-crime reduction initiatives can be very useful, if the data from them are used correctly (I was mind blown by how stupid traffic stops are bc data was used incorrectly) (And why are we still relying on police who don't have enough training to do it all?)
-the fact that crime isn't gathered in whole neighborhoods, but streets within the neighborhoods is so interesting. Also good to know how much a reduction in guns can help.
-suicidal people who don't easily have access to a way to kill themselves often don't (so wild how many deaths could have been prevented if a net had been put up under the San Francisco Bridge so much earlier- those people that fail to execute a jump most often don't end up dying in the end from a different way)
-the justice system continues to feel so unfair, and yet what to do about it? Humans are just so bad at detecting truth from lies
-the information gleaned from torturing people is often not true at all (and yet we keep doing it)
-we are surrounded by people lying to us everyday, and instead of detecting it, we're actually really good at giving them the benefit of the doubt and that's actually a good thing because it would be terrible living in a society filled with people that don't trust one another (Bernie Madoff's case was crazyyyyy and I loved the profile of the guy that knew he was a fraud from the beginning)
-the amount of sexual assaults taking place on college campuses is unacceptable; I can't believe there isn't more being done to figure out how to stop them more often. And I don't think Gladwell quite hit the nail on the head by blaming alcohol more than the objectification of women.
Specifically the part about Jerry Sandusky was wild. I don't understand how it fit in with the rest of the book, and feel like he really just wanted to be able to write about the case. I finished that chapter feeling quite uneasy- he really wants to have people question whether or not he is guilty because of one or two conspiracy theorists? Also felt super uncomfortable with how graphic the SA parts were; it felt like he was sensationalizing a really awful subject and it made me take away less of what he was actually trying to argue or get across.
My learnings:
-great reminder that talking with strangers means talking to people with very different perspectives and backgrounds than us (I liked the example of a person from the Netherlands moving here and thinking that they way Americans behave is fake because they are effusive)
-guns are a huge public health problem, especially for police interacting with the public, crime riddled neighborhoods, and death by suicide
-crime reduction initiatives can be very useful, if the data from them are used correctly (I was mind blown by how stupid traffic stops are bc data was used incorrectly) (And why are we still relying on police who don't have enough training to do it all?)
-the fact that crime isn't gathered in whole neighborhoods, but streets within the neighborhoods is so interesting. Also good to know how much a reduction in guns can help.
-suicidal people who don't easily have access to a way to kill themselves often don't (so wild how many deaths could have been prevented if a net had been put up under the San Francisco Bridge so much earlier- those people that fail to execute a jump most often don't end up dying in the end from a different way)
-the justice system continues to feel so unfair, and yet what to do about it? Humans are just so bad at detecting truth from lies
-the information gleaned from torturing people is often not true at all (and yet we keep doing it)
-we are surrounded by people lying to us everyday, and instead of detecting it, we're actually really good at giving them the benefit of the doubt and that's actually a good thing because it would be terrible living in a society filled with people that don't trust one another (Bernie Madoff's case was crazyyyyy and I loved the profile of the guy that knew he was a fraud from the beginning)
-the amount of sexual assaults taking place on college campuses is unacceptable; I can't believe there isn't more being done to figure out how to stop them more often. And I don't think Gladwell quite hit the nail on the head by blaming alcohol more than the objectification of women.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicide, Police brutality
informative
reflective
fast-paced
While I think there are important topics covered in this book, some of the situations, systems, and dynamics discussed in this book feel a bit oversimplified and maybe lack the depth required to cover holistically. There is not a lot of dialogue on cultural prospectives, differences, intersectional identities, and the role of systemic oppression, and the way that that influences the way people show up in certain spaces or roles. I by no means think that this was the intention, but the
way certain situations are covered, I think could potentially be perceived as victim blaming, and then on the other side, being overly sympathetic to people who have caused harm.
way certain situations are covered, I think could potentially be perceived as victim blaming, and then on the other side, being overly sympathetic to people who have caused harm.
We believe that we can tell my looking at and talking to someone if the are good, bad, lying. TV shows have taught the facial expressions of a liar.
Computer programs are better at predicting bail jumpers than judges but judges won’t relinquish.
Amanda Knox did not act with remorse so was convicted even though no physical evidence.
The Coupling part is really fascinating... event tied to something...suicide to gas ovens, suicide to Golden Gate Bridge, crime to certain areas of a neighborhood .
How the Police experiment in Kansas City with stop and search evolved is frightening ...
I understand the Defund Police people a bit more...
Computer programs are better at predicting bail jumpers than judges but judges won’t relinquish.
Amanda Knox did not act with remorse so was convicted even though no physical evidence.
The Coupling part is really fascinating... event tied to something...suicide to gas ovens, suicide to Golden Gate Bridge, crime to certain areas of a neighborhood .
How the Police experiment in Kansas City with stop and search evolved is frightening ...
I understand the Defund Police people a bit more...