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icywere's review

4.0

I’ve always known sex is an interactions but this book has helped me evolve my perspective on what it means to have sex. 
Angel’s account that sex is not an object, that we can invite someone in but not know how they may enter, not know how we want them to enter… was so eloquent. Sex like most things is mutable, is changeable, and yes this means there is an opening for fear and violence but conversely it is an opening for the power of vulnerability. 

I love the title of this book, because if we respect and accept the nuances of vulnerability, reciprocity and mutability of sex, we can not claim ever really claim that sex will be good again… because we cannot define what sex we will want tomorrow, how we want it, where, with whom…. 
I haven’t spent much time  thinking about interacting with this space, that of the unknown, as a site of pleasure, of eroticism. It had only been conceived as a site of fear. 
I am excited to go through the notes and started reading more around this topic. 


It could have included more voices from Black, POC and Queer folks but it would be a much bigger book /project to talk more intersectionally. 

augustreads's review

4.75
challenging informative reflective medium-paced

Short but made some very insightful commentary

Excellent arguments but it reads like an academic text and I found myself less engaged at time.
challenging informative inspiring

eol's review

4.0
hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

Really good look at how women and sex are viewed.

kristietj's review

4.5
challenging reflective fast-paced

Made me reflect on my own experiences I had been avoiding. Gave me new perspectives on sex, especially in terms of consent and vulnerability, and its importance in the conversation. 

It is very focused on Western, heterosexual relationships, with some notions of POC experiences, but there is just not much space for nuance in 115 pages. I also don’t think that it was the intention of the author.
informative reflective fast-paced