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mydeimos's review

2.5
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informative reflective medium-paced

Really important conversation on different ways to view sex, specially the new concept - at least for me- of vulnerability and how that plays a key role. 
I also loved the introduction of desire as something that can change/ we don’t necessarily know to perfection and how that doesn’t have to be an impediment to explore and have explicit consent. 

sunbat5001's review

3.0

This is a fascinating book about sexuality and consent. At times I was unclear what point the author was actually trying to make as the style is overly academic and unclear. Still, there are some very interesting sections and the author discusses a wide range of books, studies and ideological viewpoints.

[Free ARC from NetGalley]
challenging informative reflective medium-paced

i think i have to come back to this book. it’s dense and the writing style doesn’t match my reading cadence. but aside from that the content is definitely thought provoking.

the author questions how we can ever know good sex if we aren’t allowed to explore ambiguity in our preferences?

“working out what we want is a life’s work, and it has to be done over and over and over. the joy may lie in it never being done.”
informative medium-paced

This felt more like a literary review on the subject of sex. On the one hand it was the great to know the work was backed by scholarly research (not a given in nonfictions unfortunately) but on the other hand it was hard to distinguish what the author's actual argument was until the very very end. I found it somewhat boring just because I have already read several of the works it discusses like Emily Nagowski and Jill Lepore. 

The author largely seeks to expose the issues with concent culture as the only way to healthily express sexuality which was interesting but spends a lot of time talking about how women don't usually know their own desires which was a bizarre take for me. I think people often don't know their desires but I wouldn't say it's the majority of people or the majority of the time. She addresses the argument finally in the end (how sex is about figuring it out together with a partner, and how that is often how we explore our desires) but she repeated it several times in the book without the logic of her argument that she only dropped at the very end. 

Purely an issue on my end and not with the author, but I expected it to be more of a political treatise than it was, still I enjoyed what I got. 

It was also very gender binary in the writing. She was quick to disrupt sexist thinking in past sexologies but stuck to a man/woman narratives with no qualifiers. 
challenging informative reflective medium-paced

shmoley's review

5.0
informative reflective medium-paced