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Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent
Katherine Angel
4.04 AVERAGE
733 reviews for:
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent
Katherine Angel
4.04 AVERAGE
America Ferrera should've read this entire book out loud as her barbie feminist monologue
This was absolutely fantastic
This was absolutely fantastic
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I enjoyed this! I haven't read anything like it before, so I have no point of comparison. I'm not a fan of going into this type of writing looking for answers or as some type of self-help, but I will say it offered some insight as to why so many sexual experiences I've had felt off and even a glimpse of what could have been different about these situations.
This aside, it's super informative for its length!
Read it!
This aside, it's super informative for its length!
Read it!
3.5 inspiring at times but also quite repetitive. It would be much better as one compact essay instead of four
manages to distill quite complex theory (the title comes from Foucault and this frames quite a lot of the analysis) into an interesting and critical discussion on consent, sex research and the gender politics of desire, particularly troubling the idea of affirmative consent/an absence of rape as the standard through which we measure good sex. really interesting last essay on vulnerability in sex which I felt really tied the short collection together and which to me felt like the crux of the argument - how power relations structure the experience of vulnerability and the unknown in sex yet it is precisely vulnerability and the unpredictable that are constitutive of reimagining sex beyond consent (and also reminded me of one my favourite essay of all time - uses of the erotic: erotic as power by audre lorde).
3.5 stars rounded down
"In a world where women saying no to sex is so routinely met with entitled disbelief and pushy cajoling, and where women saying yes to sex is subjected to both shaming and rationalizations in the service of allegedly higher aims, it's profoundly problematic to make receptivity to sex a definitional aspect of female sexuality, all the while leaving male sexuality intact as a drive."
"In urging women to be clear and certain about their sexual desires, proponents of consent culture are urging women to be the object of a masculine fantasy. But being the object of a masculine fantasy has a fraught status: she can invite approval, excitement, delight, but she can also - and sometimes in the same person - provoke disgust, contempt, hostility. A sexually desirous woman may become both the fulfilled wish and the hated object, and a man can simultaneously be avid and judgmental; aroused and punitive."
"In a world where women saying no to sex is so routinely met with entitled disbelief and pushy cajoling, and where women saying yes to sex is subjected to both shaming and rationalizations in the service of allegedly higher aims, it's profoundly problematic to make receptivity to sex a definitional aspect of female sexuality, all the while leaving male sexuality intact as a drive."
"In urging women to be clear and certain about their sexual desires, proponents of consent culture are urging women to be the object of a masculine fantasy. But being the object of a masculine fantasy has a fraught status: she can invite approval, excitement, delight, but she can also - and sometimes in the same person - provoke disgust, contempt, hostility. A sexually desirous woman may become both the fulfilled wish and the hated object, and a man can simultaneously be avid and judgmental; aroused and punitive."
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“How can we know what we want, when knowing what we want is both something demanded of us and a source of punishment?”
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