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I was reading this book on the overground. I could hear a boom box. By its new loudness, I knew the music had snaked its way up the carriage to me. A man was singing. My ears pricked when I heard him say:

There's a girl reading a book
about sex. I see you, yeah. It's
kinda freaky.

Immediately, I felt embarrassed. (freaky? what does he mean by freaky? weird? kinky?) Then, I felt empowered. Afterwards, I felt confused. This emotional reaction was apt, especially because I was reading a book which explores the confusing nature of female desire. I was aware of all the men looking at me: they might be turned on or put off by me and the book I was reading. The experience showed me how I don't own my sexuality enough and how I am so caught up in what other people think, that I am distanced from my own needs. This book is activism at it's finest and shed some light into some caves I hadn't explored before.

I loved it! The title, the opening quote, the chapter names and the incredibly succinct and focused argument for HOW sex could be good again. It was so throughly researched, using relevant cultural references alongside scientific research, that the bibliography notes were almost the same size as the argument itself.

Katherine Angel is a fantastic writer. Her voice is like butter on toast: soooo necessary and her words and theories are in league with Rebecca Solnit. Read this book. Read it!

challenging informative reflective fast-paced
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alinaxlv's review


Buch ist verschwunden :(
informative reflective

A short, but extensive and well-argued account of sexual violence. Angel provides clarification on the dangers of misconceptions and misused terms relating to it. Not the most thorough account, but a great starting point for diving into this complex issue.

I enjoyed it overall. I found parts of it boring and I felt like other parts were wrapped up quickly and I wanted to know more. 

A nurturing reassurance I desperately needed. I was especially moved by the chapter On Vulnerability

non-fiction text about the age of consent and its role in autonomy. the text was well researched and sex positive. it was empowering and a good additional to existing feminist literature about consent. I would recommend it to anyone wanting to learn about consent and its importance.

Short and to the point, Angel successful argues the way in which ambiguity is crucial to sex and desire which is unfortunately at odds with the way in which consent culture and the associated "confidence feminism" talk about women's sexual desire in popular discourse.
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madlpine's review

5.0
hopeful informative fast-paced