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Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent
Katherine Angel
4.04 AVERAGE
736 reviews for:
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent
Katherine Angel
4.04 AVERAGE
i don't think this book really knows what it wants to be? some really interesting points, esp on how discourses on consent (and girlboss confidence culture) can be invoked for very different purposes, but very cis, and also somehow not particularly thoughtful about how sex functions within.....capitalism? that seems like a big thing? considering how all over the place this was thematically, would've been very happy to see some tackling of how carceral feminism and sex work fit into the paradigm that angel lays out
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again is engaging and thoughtful in the way that such a nuanced subject should be. Katherine Angel knows how to present the past, present and future of sex in the age of consent and what that continues to look like.
This book covers difficult subject matters and questions of desire with real care and doesn’t shy aware from hard discussions. I would really recommend to anybody who wants to learn more about the history of consent campaigning and the sociological and societal views of desire and sex.
This book covers difficult subject matters and questions of desire with real care and doesn’t shy aware from hard discussions. I would really recommend to anybody who wants to learn more about the history of consent campaigning and the sociological and societal views of desire and sex.
informative
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A philosophical challenging and broadening of the aims, research, and conversations around sex and female desire (through a heterosexual lens). Angel argues that while encouraging consent (and further beyond, enthusiastic consent) is obviously an important step forward (the “least bad” metric, at least legally), it has limitations for interpersonal relationships, in that it sets up a dichotomy of one who is asking and one who is consenting - and equality is assumed to be inherent to that structure. Not to mention that much sex that is consented to, even enthusiastically, can be bad in a variety of ways. As a different reviewer put it: "Angel is interested in good sex, not merely not criminal sex." Furthermore, while the narrative around empowering women to be vocal about their desires and sex-positive isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it continues to frame female desire as something hidden and mysterious that needs to be excavated (unlike men’s, whose desire is obvious and unquestioned), and rather than moving on from the dated idea that it’s men who must persist in pursuing sex to push past women’s hesitations, simply shifts and places the onus on women to be vocal and confidently express exactly what they want - and therefore places the onus on them to both achieve their own pleasure and avoid sexual violence. This is, Angel argues, an endeavor that both shames and blames women who don’t feel those things, and also presumes that desire is knowable, containable, and finite - when in fact, it may be none of those things, much more akin to the myriad possibilities of a conversation than an object that can be given or taken, a box that can be checked yes or no. Why should we know what we want? Desire can’t be separated from context or from relation - it must be discovered in interaction with “vulnerability, receptivity, and porousness.”
I particularly liked the chapter on Vulnerability - some of the other chapters read a bit dry to me, but overall it felt like an engaging and nuanced exploration and partial rejection of certain frameworks, underlined by the idea that desire does not have to be known to protect people from violence, nor to find its fulfillment.
I particularly liked the chapter on Vulnerability - some of the other chapters read a bit dry to me, but overall it felt like an engaging and nuanced exploration and partial rejection of certain frameworks, underlined by the idea that desire does not have to be known to protect people from violence, nor to find its fulfillment.
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this book is tiny but mighty, and I am in awe! I feel like I’ve learned soooo much, and I cannot wait to reread it and learn even more the next time, as this book has SO many valuable and powerful insights and ideas. this book has become important in my personal journey, to the point that i have to journal about this LOL
“Consent, and its conceit of absolute clarity, places the burden of good sexual interaction on women’s behavior… This, as we’ll see, is dangerous.”
“Desire is uncertain and unfolding, and this is unsettling… We must not insist on a sexual desire that is fixed and known in advanced, in order to be safe.”
“When it comes to sex, there is pleasure to be had in vulnerability… We need to be vulnerable - to take risks, to be open to the unknown — if we are to experience joy and transformation.”
🌿💌 im shook
“Consent, and its conceit of absolute clarity, places the burden of good sexual interaction on women’s behavior… This, as we’ll see, is dangerous.”
“Desire is uncertain and unfolding, and this is unsettling… We must not insist on a sexual desire that is fixed and known in advanced, in order to be safe.”
“When it comes to sex, there is pleasure to be had in vulnerability… We need to be vulnerable - to take risks, to be open to the unknown — if we are to experience joy and transformation.”
🌿💌 im shook
Probably, this is the book that I have highlighted the most and taken the most notes from till now. The writer challenged me about the things that I thought knew and opened doors for so many things that I didn't know. It kinda felt like 4 long academic essays at times - but the write has perfectly weighted everything she has written. The chapter about consent is probably my favourite. I'm going to suggest this to my friends. I'm very happy I read this.
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It was fine. Could have been an essay.
challenging
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