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217 reviews for:
How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
Nicole LePera
3.77 AVERAGE
217 reviews for:
How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
Nicole LePera
3.77 AVERAGE
informative
reflective
medium-paced
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
This book is probably about a hundred pages too long but the tools and advice on how to address inner wounds and traumas are powerful enough that it's worth the read anyway. I took lots of notes and will be working on the inner work questions outlined throughout the book, but I also found myself skimming paragraphs often (either because the content got repetitive or the author spent far too long on a personal anecdote) and just skipping to the key insights or the inner work questions / exercises within each chapter.
Basically, if we're not getting our needs in our relationships our first instinct is to express that to our partner and ask them to do something differently. Instead, this book invites us to look within ourselves for the real solution. It gives us tools for processing childhood trauma (and the unconscious coping mechanisms we developed to process those), bringing our dysregulated nervous system back to homeostasis, and learning to observe the trauma based stories our mind cooks up by tuning into the intuitive wisdom of our own body.
Basically, if we're not getting our needs in our relationships our first instinct is to express that to our partner and ask them to do something differently. Instead, this book invites us to look within ourselves for the real solution. It gives us tools for processing childhood trauma (and the unconscious coping mechanisms we developed to process those), bringing our dysregulated nervous system back to homeostasis, and learning to observe the trauma based stories our mind cooks up by tuning into the intuitive wisdom of our own body.
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
Kind of wonder if maybe this author became a psychologist to understand herself better and this book was her figuring herself out. There were so many examples from her personal life I got secondhand embarrassment worrying about how her exes and relatives might feel being publicly psychoanalyzed. Felt almost unethical. Some useful ideas and information though. Working on yourself benefits your relationships with others.
reflective
slow-paced
Great and actually helpful. But triggering so DNF
Just finished How to Be the Love You Seek, and it’s a must-read for anyone on a self-love journey. The book dives deep into the idea that the love you’re searching for might be tied to things you’ve been deprived of in the past—like healing yourself before expecting ‘perfect love’ from someone else. It really challenges you to look inward. And just when I thought I had it all figured out, BAM! The author drops the bomb that they’re in a throuple! I was shocked, but honestly, unconventional love for the win! Definitely recommend if you’re open to exploring new perspectives on love.
challenging
reflective
medium-paced
The beginning of the book had me, but towards the end is where I fell off. I respect where the author was going, but I feel like as a therapist if I told a client to read this they would be frustrated.
It defiantly provides education and validation around why we behave in different relationships, and gravitate towards certain types of people.. but not much is left to how to navigate it really. The book felt repetitive and I was a little bored reading the same thing over and over and found myself skimming.
I also agree with the other reviews that there is some privilege that lines the words and stories in this book, and it would have been nice to address that a bit more.
It defiantly provides education and validation around why we behave in different relationships, and gravitate towards certain types of people.. but not much is left to how to navigate it really. The book felt repetitive and I was a little bored reading the same thing over and over and found myself skimming.
I also agree with the other reviews that there is some privilege that lines the words and stories in this book, and it would have been nice to address that a bit more.
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced