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sheyda's review against another edition
3.0
چگونه از تنهایی لذت ببریم اثر خانم سارا میتلند و ترجمه خانم سما قرایی -از سری کتاب های «مدرسه زندگی»- کتابی است در باب تنهایی که بیشتر پیشینه نگرش مردم نسبت به تنهایی را بررسی می کند.
بر خلاف دیگر کتاب های راهنما و self-help، این کتاب ابتدا همه مسائل منفی را از سر راه بر می دارد سپس از مزایا و لذات وافر تنهایی صحبت می کند.
بیان داستان ترکیب فلسفی و علمی بود که شخصا از آن لذت بردم.
برخی نقل قول ها فوق‌العاده بودند طوری که من رو به فکر فرو می بردند و باعث می شدند سریع دفترم را برداشته و از آن ها نت بردارم.
ترجمه نسبتا خوب بود اما «بعضی جاها» در فهم مطالب به مشکل بر می خوردم و باید بر می گشتم دوباره از اول می خواندم تا متوجه شوم.
در آخرین گفتار کتاب، کتاب ها یا رمان های برتر خارجی دیگر مضمون «تنهایی» معرفی شده اند.
بر خلاف دیگر کتاب های راهنما و self-help، این کتاب ابتدا همه مسائل منفی را از سر راه بر می دارد سپس از مزایا و لذات وافر تنهایی صحبت می کند.
بیان داستان ترکیب فلسفی و علمی بود که شخصا از آن لذت بردم.
برخی نقل قول ها فوق‌العاده بودند طوری که من رو به فکر فرو می بردند و باعث می شدند سریع دفترم را برداشته و از آن ها نت بردارم.
ترجمه نسبتا خوب بود اما «بعضی جاها» در فهم مطالب به مشکل بر می خوردم و باید بر می گشتم دوباره از اول می خواندم تا متوجه شوم.
در آخرین گفتار کتاب، کتاب ها یا رمان های برتر خارجی دیگر مضمون «تنهایی» معرفی شده اند.
shirinm2001's review
informative
slow-paced
0.25
Could have easily been a blog post instead of a book,too much useless information
ejazhusseini's review against another edition
3.0
HOW TO BE ALONE review: solitude is vital to everyone…”
How to be alone
By “Sara Maitland”
This book is one of the how-to series of books by The School of Life which is an educationally focused company that provides people with philosophical knowledge about all aspects of life in forms of books, cards, videos and therapies.
There is no doubt that The School of Life YouTube channel is one of my most followed and beloved channels. It has not only helped me in several times of needs and at different levels, but has also made me a better thinker, a better human and also a better lifer. Alongside their very insightful articles which always leaves me wanting more, I wanted to read their little books as well, which I assumed would be a longer version of those articles.
Their How-to series covers a pretty wide array of topics very important for living a better quality of life. Though very hard to find, both in hard and soft copy, where I live, I still managed to get my hands on some of these books and now I’ve started to read them as more of a sideline book besides the main books that I read.
So how was ‘How to be alone’? I was very intrigued by this book, obviously by the title of it as well, for a couple of reasons. First, as much introverted as I am and as firmly as I believe that I am, I have always found myself poor at living alone. Second, I wanted to learn to be alone, to enjoy my introversion even more, and to be more independent because I have always found people unreliable in my life at times when I need them.
How to be alone definitely has some of those how-to tricks for you to apply in order to live in more solitude peacefully. But even more than that it explores the origins of solitude, the idea that solitude is almost taboo in the 21st century, and then how much we are missing by constantly avoiding the idea of being alone.
Maitland explains at the end of this short book that she has written this book from back to front; discussing the problems associated with solitude first and then finishing on a high by writing about the perks of being alone. And this might just have given me a chance to accept the book and be kinder towards it.
Starting backwards, this book can definitely get a bit too methodical or academic that almost get to loathe this book as one of your school books. And it takes quite a while, although it is a very short book, to get to the how-to section of it. But it absolutely finishes on a high by talking about that I came here for: “how benign is solitude!”
Maitland also realizes that this is not a complete book at all, but rather a motivation to start reading the other, more detailed books on solitude which she suggests at the Homework section at the end. But for wanting to know a little more about being alone and why it is important or for those, like me, who want some affirmation that being alone is indeed important and not alienated, for them this book is a good read – though not entirely.
An excerpt:
“The freedom to walk alone, to eat alone, to travel alone gives at the very least a wider potential pleasure. I would feel deprived if both were not possible for me.”
So have I earned some tricks up my sleeve for the next time I end up being alone from my family and friends, in a far away land? Maybe. And I say that because I really not sure yet. But I will always have his book with me, in case I need it. And am I more learned about solitude, about its pleasures and not having to depend on others? Yes! If anything, this book does provide the assurances you need to be able to live alone without bothering about others.
My praise for the novel:
A handbook that teaches you the vital skill of being alone;
You don’t even realize how much you’re missing on!
Ratings: 3.8/4 ***
A review by: Ejaz Hussain
June 29th, 2019.
How to be alone
By “Sara Maitland”
This book is one of the how-to series of books by The School of Life which is an educationally focused company that provides people with philosophical knowledge about all aspects of life in forms of books, cards, videos and therapies.
There is no doubt that The School of Life YouTube channel is one of my most followed and beloved channels. It has not only helped me in several times of needs and at different levels, but has also made me a better thinker, a better human and also a better lifer. Alongside their very insightful articles which always leaves me wanting more, I wanted to read their little books as well, which I assumed would be a longer version of those articles.
Their How-to series covers a pretty wide array of topics very important for living a better quality of life. Though very hard to find, both in hard and soft copy, where I live, I still managed to get my hands on some of these books and now I’ve started to read them as more of a sideline book besides the main books that I read.
So how was ‘How to be alone’? I was very intrigued by this book, obviously by the title of it as well, for a couple of reasons. First, as much introverted as I am and as firmly as I believe that I am, I have always found myself poor at living alone. Second, I wanted to learn to be alone, to enjoy my introversion even more, and to be more independent because I have always found people unreliable in my life at times when I need them.
How to be alone definitely has some of those how-to tricks for you to apply in order to live in more solitude peacefully. But even more than that it explores the origins of solitude, the idea that solitude is almost taboo in the 21st century, and then how much we are missing by constantly avoiding the idea of being alone.
Maitland explains at the end of this short book that she has written this book from back to front; discussing the problems associated with solitude first and then finishing on a high by writing about the perks of being alone. And this might just have given me a chance to accept the book and be kinder towards it.
Starting backwards, this book can definitely get a bit too methodical or academic that almost get to loathe this book as one of your school books. And it takes quite a while, although it is a very short book, to get to the how-to section of it. But it absolutely finishes on a high by talking about that I came here for: “how benign is solitude!”
Maitland also realizes that this is not a complete book at all, but rather a motivation to start reading the other, more detailed books on solitude which she suggests at the Homework section at the end. But for wanting to know a little more about being alone and why it is important or for those, like me, who want some affirmation that being alone is indeed important and not alienated, for them this book is a good read – though not entirely.
An excerpt:
“The freedom to walk alone, to eat alone, to travel alone gives at the very least a wider potential pleasure. I would feel deprived if both were not possible for me.”
So have I earned some tricks up my sleeve for the next time I end up being alone from my family and friends, in a far away land? Maybe. And I say that because I really not sure yet. But I will always have his book with me, in case I need it. And am I more learned about solitude, about its pleasures and not having to depend on others? Yes! If anything, this book does provide the assurances you need to be able to live alone without bothering about others.
My praise for the novel:
A handbook that teaches you the vital skill of being alone;
You don’t even realize how much you’re missing on!
Ratings: 3.8/4 ***
A review by: Ejaz Hussain
June 29th, 2019.
lajjbuzz's review against another edition
1.0
کتاب مزخرف و کسل‌کننده بود!
اسم کتابی با محتوا فرق داشت.
در واقع کتاب بیشتر راجع به این بود که به آدمای تنها احترام بذاریم و تنهایی رو ستایش کرده بود.
چیزی به من اضافه نکرد و وقت تلف کردن بود رسما.
اسم کتابی با محتوا فرق داشت.
در واقع کتاب بیشتر راجع به این بود که به آدمای تنها احترام بذاریم و تنهایی رو ستایش کرده بود.
چیزی به من اضافه نکرد و وقت تلف کردن بود رسما.
nicohvi's review against another edition
3.0
This book explores the concept of being alone in both the physical and metaphysical sense. Its chapters concerned with the physical separation of oneself and other people (often with explicit, practical tactics to employ in order to convince said other people that you're not mad or depressed) are not the most interesting however, but the ones detailing the metaphysical (in the sense of mental clarity, creativity, and happiness) balance the books to some extent.
I found these latter chapters much more interesting, but I guess some people might find tricks like saying "I'm going on a solo adventure to Jamaica" rather than saying "I'm going to get drunk on a beach for a week by myself to appreciate solitude and creativity" useful.
Being alone is something I'm slightly conflicted about, not for its professed benefits (with regards to calmness and creativity in particular), but for its effect on the mind. I always experience my most creative moments when I'm alone, but I also unfailingly get a lingering sense of anxiety whenever I go too long without interacting with another human being.
I read this book in order to explore this balance: whether its feasible to spend quite a long stretch of time (say, several weeks) in solitude while devoting oneself to a craft (or whatever) and still come away mentally unscathed (in the sense that one doesn't feel a crushing sense of loneliness or something akin to that).
I've personally excused my assumed need for social interaction with the assumption that "I need to see people every day because I'm an extrovert", but as Maitland explains in this book the labels of "extrovert" and "introvert" are too broad to completely contain all the complexities that make up an entire person. We are all, to a certain extent, both introverts and extroverts. Thus I concluded that maybe my extrovert-excuse might be a bit on the shallow end of the pool, and that I needed to take a deeper dive.
Unfortunately I didn't find the answers I was looking for by the time I reached the end of this particular book, but at least it got me asking the right question, which I suppose is what it set out to do in the first place.
I found these latter chapters much more interesting, but I guess some people might find tricks like saying "I'm going on a solo adventure to Jamaica" rather than saying "I'm going to get drunk on a beach for a week by myself to appreciate solitude and creativity" useful.
Being alone is something I'm slightly conflicted about, not for its professed benefits (with regards to calmness and creativity in particular), but for its effect on the mind. I always experience my most creative moments when I'm alone, but I also unfailingly get a lingering sense of anxiety whenever I go too long without interacting with another human being.
I read this book in order to explore this balance: whether its feasible to spend quite a long stretch of time (say, several weeks) in solitude while devoting oneself to a craft (or whatever) and still come away mentally unscathed (in the sense that one doesn't feel a crushing sense of loneliness or something akin to that).
I've personally excused my assumed need for social interaction with the assumption that "I need to see people every day because I'm an extrovert", but as Maitland explains in this book the labels of "extrovert" and "introvert" are too broad to completely contain all the complexities that make up an entire person. We are all, to a certain extent, both introverts and extroverts. Thus I concluded that maybe my extrovert-excuse might be a bit on the shallow end of the pool, and that I needed to take a deeper dive.
Unfortunately I didn't find the answers I was looking for by the time I reached the end of this particular book, but at least it got me asking the right question, which I suppose is what it set out to do in the first place.
wandering_not_lost's review against another edition
2.0
I feel this book was simultaneously aimed at two different audiences: the person who already prefers being (or who is) alone and the person who is not sure if they want to be alone. As a person in the former category, I found the resulting book to be largely self-evident and surprisingly boring. The topics themselves are a mishmash of defense of the desire to be alone, a pseudo-academic book on people in history who have wanted or benefitted from being alone, and (the least well-developed) actual tips on how to better enjoy being alone. I felt that over half the book was really not speaking to me, but trying to convince in a rather defensive way some other reader that being alone was not terrible...which I already know? Just wasn't what I was looking for.
noonhe's review against another edition
2.0
به نظرم این کتاب بیشتر به درد کسایی میخوره که از تنهایی میترسند یا تا به حال تجربه ای از تنها بودن نداشتد. چون بیشتر کتاب درباره اینه که تنهایی چیز نرمال و خوب و لازمیه و جامعه، مخصوصا جوامع غربی به افراد تنها برچسب های نامناسبی مثل روانی بودن، مردم گریزی، و مشکل دار بودن میزنه و به خاطر همین هم مردم دائم سعی میکنن که تنها نباشن و تو جمع باشن چون جامعه این مدلی بودن رو میپسنده و قبول میکنه! نویسنده هم سعی میکنه که بگه اینطور نیست و تنها بودن مزایای زیادی داره و مثال هایی میزنه از زندگی خودش و کسایی که تجربه تنها بودن رو داشتن. و یه سری پیشنهادایی میده که تو تنهایی انجام بدیم.
خیلی خوندنش به من کمکی نکرد چون من خودم با تنها بودن مشکلی ندارم و مزایاش رو میدونم ولی گمان میکردم این کتاب درباره اینه که کسایی که تنها هستن از اون تنهای چطور خوب استفاده کنن. و خب این کتاب اینطوری نبود!
خیلی خوندنش به من کمکی نکرد چون من خودم با تنها بودن مشکلی ندارم و مزایاش رو میدونم ولی گمان میکردم این کتاب درباره اینه که کسایی که تنها هستن از اون تنهای چطور خوب استفاده کنن. و خب این کتاب اینطوری نبود!
readingfarandwide's review
4.0
This book was very useful, but I agree with the other reviewers who said that the author was trying too hard to convince us readers that being alone is a good thing. I didn't mind that so much because I was on the fence for such a long time about this question and I did need a little bit of extra convincing. However, this book is really more of an introduction to the topic rather than an in-depth guide that I was hoping for. She spends much of the book defending her preference of living alone instead of giving useful insights into the solitary lifestyle. I must note that the bibliography at the end of the book and the 'homework' section is excellent! All in all, I think anyone who is interested in the topic should read this book as it is a great introduction, but you will enjoy it only if your expectations are not too high and you don't expect that this book changes your life.