A review by ladykristyofwigtownshire
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn

reflective slow-paced

2.5

Not for abuse survivors 
The book started out well but was too invested in generational trauma and not actual trauma that result from unresolved generational trauma. 

It’s very gendered. The author normalizes parentification.  Lays blame on the child (adult child) to heal the relationship. 

Makes issues of those who didn’t marry. Compulsory monogamy. 

The author lays bare his biases. 

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