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A review by lgreadssmut
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski, Emily Nagoski
5.0
I love, love, loved, and needed this book. There are things in it that feel maybe a bit redundant like you might already know, but every single chapter surprised me by digging deeper and going further into a concept that was groundbreaking for me.
I listened to it on audiobook while taking walks and going for runs. It inspired me so much while I was reading it that I had one of the best weeks - going for runs, feeling good, and focusing on decompressing.
Down to the very last chapter there were nuggets of gold - validation that I really needed to hear.
One of my favorite parts that I have gone back and read at least 3 times now:
“*It [joy] doesn’t come from within. It comes from connection with fellow givers. The stepping to joy is feeling like you are enough. And feeling not enough is a form of loneliness. We need other people to tell us that we are enough. Not because we don’t know it already, but because the act of hearing it from someone else and equally the act of taking the time to remind someone else that they’re enough is part of what makes us feel we are enough. We give and we receive and we are made whole.*
*It is a normal, healthy condition of humanity to need other people to remind us that we can trust ourselves. That we can be as tender and compassionate with ourselves as we would be as our best selves toward any suffering child. To need help feeling enough is not a pathology. It is not “neediness.” It is as normal as your need to assure the people you love that they can trust themselves - that they can be as tender and compassionate with themselves as you would be with them. And this exchange, this connection is the springboard from which we launch into a healthy life.*”
I listened to it on audiobook while taking walks and going for runs. It inspired me so much while I was reading it that I had one of the best weeks - going for runs, feeling good, and focusing on decompressing.
Down to the very last chapter there were nuggets of gold - validation that I really needed to hear.
One of my favorite parts that I have gone back and read at least 3 times now:
“*It [joy] doesn’t come from within. It comes from connection with fellow givers. The stepping to joy is feeling like you are enough. And feeling not enough is a form of loneliness. We need other people to tell us that we are enough. Not because we don’t know it already, but because the act of hearing it from someone else and equally the act of taking the time to remind someone else that they’re enough is part of what makes us feel we are enough. We give and we receive and we are made whole.*
*It is a normal, healthy condition of humanity to need other people to remind us that we can trust ourselves. That we can be as tender and compassionate with ourselves as we would be as our best selves toward any suffering child. To need help feeling enough is not a pathology. It is not “neediness.” It is as normal as your need to assure the people you love that they can trust themselves - that they can be as tender and compassionate with themselves as you would be with them. And this exchange, this connection is the springboard from which we launch into a healthy life.*”