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Never Finished: Unshackle Your Mind and Win the War Within by David Goggins
5.0
5 actionable takeaways:
1. This book taught me that your body is capable of more that what we think. Fear and the ego are scared to take a leap into the unknown (ref to the power of now). We have a duty, with the body and soul that we're given, to push it to the extremes and use every single bit of energy into something intrinsically meaningful to you, whatever it is.
2. Resilience turns the darkness (could be anything from a tragedy you had no control over or was completely your fault) to light. Don't tunnel vision into your problems, take a wider fov and quiet your mind by walking outside for example
3. Sometimes we think quitting is for the good but in reality this comes from fear that is disguised as love. When quitting, make sure it's a conscious decision yr making not a reaction. Never quit when yr pain and insecurity are at their peak, quit when it's easy
4. In the morning, mentally go through yr day and see where you might reach zone 5 (high stress/difficult situation), decide yr reaction NOW and take THAT action when yr in it.
5. Stop searching for an indication that the hard time will end, why hope it will end soon when you know it will end eventually. When you reach the top, you'll wish u were back there. Yr strongest moments will often make you think of yr weakest
Dealing with unfortunate situations:
- Unfortunate situations never last, but bad attitude always lingers
- The more you dwell on it the weaker you feel
- No matter what life serves you, you say "Roger that", meaning: "received, expect results"
- Roger that is like a one way ticket back to yr life after a big setback
- Scream it out loud whnv you get hit with setbacks. Release and forget about it in any way possible if there's nothing you can do about it. These setbacks got nothing on you
- Whenever something sets you back, set a tangible goal to keep you task oriented and not dwelling on the setback
Favorite quotes:
- "In a world where ppl stop when they're tired, I stop when I'm done"
- "I'm not crazy, I'm just not you"(Say that when ppl question yr acts)
- "Your greatness is not tied to the outcome, it comes from the value of the attempt"
One last note for whoever wants to read/listen to this book. This book is very inspiring. You don't read or consume content like this very often. When you do, you get motivated to become more like Goggins. Make sure you actually use that inspiration to make changes to your life while reading the book so that by the time you are done with the book, you would have a "habit" built. Basically starting that new thing earlier and making it a part of your life when inspired (because of reading the book) will increase the chances of you sticking to the habit rather than waiting until you are done with the book to make changes.
1. This book taught me that your body is capable of more that what we think. Fear and the ego are scared to take a leap into the unknown (ref to the power of now). We have a duty, with the body and soul that we're given, to push it to the extremes and use every single bit of energy into something intrinsically meaningful to you, whatever it is.
2. Resilience turns the darkness (could be anything from a tragedy you had no control over or was completely your fault) to light. Don't tunnel vision into your problems, take a wider fov and quiet your mind by walking outside for example
3. Sometimes we think quitting is for the good but in reality this comes from fear that is disguised as love. When quitting, make sure it's a conscious decision yr making not a reaction. Never quit when yr pain and insecurity are at their peak, quit when it's easy
4. In the morning, mentally go through yr day and see where you might reach zone 5 (high stress/difficult situation), decide yr reaction NOW and take THAT action when yr in it.
5. Stop searching for an indication that the hard time will end, why hope it will end soon when you know it will end eventually. When you reach the top, you'll wish u were back there. Yr strongest moments will often make you think of yr weakest
Dealing with unfortunate situations:
- Unfortunate situations never last, but bad attitude always lingers
- The more you dwell on it the weaker you feel
- No matter what life serves you, you say "Roger that", meaning: "received, expect results"
- Roger that is like a one way ticket back to yr life after a big setback
- Scream it out loud whnv you get hit with setbacks. Release and forget about it in any way possible if there's nothing you can do about it. These setbacks got nothing on you
- Whenever something sets you back, set a tangible goal to keep you task oriented and not dwelling on the setback
Favorite quotes:
- "In a world where ppl stop when they're tired, I stop when I'm done"
- "I'm not crazy, I'm just not you"(Say that when ppl question yr acts)
- "Your greatness is not tied to the outcome, it comes from the value of the attempt"
One last note for whoever wants to read/listen to this book. This book is very inspiring. You don't read or consume content like this very often. When you do, you get motivated to become more like Goggins. Make sure you actually use that inspiration to make changes to your life while reading the book so that by the time you are done with the book, you would have a "habit" built. Basically starting that new thing earlier and making it a part of your life when inspired (because of reading the book) will increase the chances of you sticking to the habit rather than waiting until you are done with the book to make changes.
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
5.0
14 actionable takeaways:
1. Tries to keeps the past alive coz without it, "who are you?" says the ego. Even when it seems like it's concerned to the present, it misconceives it completely coz it acts upon it through the eyes of the past(acting a certain way) or future(insta likes, to impress ppl).
2. Time and mind are inseparable, to be identified w yr mind is to be identified w time and vice versa, past gives you an identity and future gives you a promise of fulfillment
3. Suffering needs time, it cannot survive in the now.
4. You cannot give your full attention to something and at the same time resist it. You no longer depend on the future for fulfillment and satisfaction you don't look to it for salvation. Therefore, you are not attached to the results. Neither failure nor success has the power to change your inner state of Being. You have found the life underneath your life situation. “nothing real can be threatened.”
5. What our mind thinks is the Future is just a replica of the past (experiences), so don't have that mentality that you wanna do smthn now just to have a better future.
6. Ask yrself "Am I at ease at this moment?", "What's going on inside me at this moment"
7. Keep some of your attention within, never get too distracted w life and forget about your within
8. Paying attention to the outer silence creates inner silence. Nothing in this world is so like god as silence
9. you cannot think and be aware of space by becoming aware of space, silence, allathat shit, you become aware of the space of no mind, pure consciousness, the unmanifested
10. Love is a state of being, you cannot lose it. What is god, the eternal one life underneath all the forms of life. What is love, to feel the presence of that one life deep within yrself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore, all love is the love of god
11. The reason we get frustrated at things is that that makes us believe that doing that solves the problem when in reality there's no problem except the fact that you got frustrated at that event
12. When you awaken from identification with form, you enjoy the pleasures of this world but there's no fear of their loss so u don't need to cling to them, the craving is gone. You accept that we own nothing and the world doesn't owe us anything, only those who has transcended the world are the one's who make the world better
13. If you continuously make the now as a means to end (for a better future). You'll make every person you encounter a means to the end. This makes the relationship a secondary to you. What you get from this rs becomes primary. Ego gratification
14. Full attention is full acceptance is full surrender
1. Tries to keeps the past alive coz without it, "who are you?" says the ego. Even when it seems like it's concerned to the present, it misconceives it completely coz it acts upon it through the eyes of the past(acting a certain way) or future(insta likes, to impress ppl).
2. Time and mind are inseparable, to be identified w yr mind is to be identified w time and vice versa, past gives you an identity and future gives you a promise of fulfillment
3. Suffering needs time, it cannot survive in the now.
4. You cannot give your full attention to something and at the same time resist it. You no longer depend on the future for fulfillment and satisfaction you don't look to it for salvation. Therefore, you are not attached to the results. Neither failure nor success has the power to change your inner state of Being. You have found the life underneath your life situation. “nothing real can be threatened.”
5. What our mind thinks is the Future is just a replica of the past (experiences), so don't have that mentality that you wanna do smthn now just to have a better future.
6. Ask yrself "Am I at ease at this moment?", "What's going on inside me at this moment"
7. Keep some of your attention within, never get too distracted w life and forget about your within
8. Paying attention to the outer silence creates inner silence. Nothing in this world is so like god as silence
9. you cannot think and be aware of space by becoming aware of space, silence, allathat shit, you become aware of the space of no mind, pure consciousness, the unmanifested
10. Love is a state of being, you cannot lose it. What is god, the eternal one life underneath all the forms of life. What is love, to feel the presence of that one life deep within yrself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore, all love is the love of god
11. The reason we get frustrated at things is that that makes us believe that doing that solves the problem when in reality there's no problem except the fact that you got frustrated at that event
12. When you awaken from identification with form, you enjoy the pleasures of this world but there's no fear of their loss so u don't need to cling to them, the craving is gone. You accept that we own nothing and the world doesn't owe us anything, only those who has transcended the world are the one's who make the world better
13. If you continuously make the now as a means to end (for a better future). You'll make every person you encounter a means to the end. This makes the relationship a secondary to you. What you get from this rs becomes primary. Ego gratification
14. Full attention is full acceptance is full surrender
How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams by Corey Wayne
4.0
1. If the rs reaches a point where there's no opportunity to grow together, then move on
2. Let her imagination fill in the blanks. Be mysterious in a playful way
3. Take woman's advice with a grain of salt. They give advice based on what they want you to feel
4. Woman know what they want, they just don't know how to express it
6. U gotta let her miss you and when her feminine side calls for you, you say YES. Why chase woman when they're already conditioned to do so
7. Kinda learned that the hard way but don't give definitions to the rs. Just go w the flow
8. Men instantly get carried by the woman (coz horny). Woman need time. And if men don't control their urges, woman gnna get creeped out. DONT BE SERIOUS. They know when we like them/are interested. Us men, we just project
9. Woman want to be in a love story, u talking bout yrself removing all the mystery from yrself ain't mysterious. Talking bout marriage is not mysterious. You need to make her feel comfortable before any of that
10. She's gonna test yr center, yr confidence. Don't fall prey(change yr beliefs to satisfy hers)
11. Make woman smile, no matter who they are and how the look
12. Complement woman with confidence, based on feelings
13. You don't have to and shouldn't constantly complement her at first. You simply being w her shows that you like her
14. The only girl you should have when talking to a girl is to make her smile, feel good about life, not necessarily Abt herself coz that would be complementing. And if she's not interested, it's her loss not ours
15. You should have an indifference mentality. You have an abundance of woman in yr life. Don't make it a big deal when when talking to new woman.
16. The more attracted she's to you, the easier it is in everything. Make her feel more comfortable around you, have more fun, carrying the Convo.
17. Before trying to engage in woman's emotions, you should first try gaining her trust. It's all how you approach her(abundance, indifference).
18. Rs should always start fun, nothing serious, it's the time to get closer through being good sexually attracted **friends**. If she tries to start talking Abt the rs in a serious matter, respond honestly but with humor. Make sure u don't define the rs
19. Put all yr attention to her and find out EVERYTHING Abt her
20. Men are like dogs, woman are like cats
21. Always lean towards not taking things seriously, choose to be playful instead of drama-tic
22. Pattern interrupt: get her to talk Abt the problem. Keep digging until she's penetrated w yr purpose of wanting to communicate. She can't sway away from my purpose. You set the tone, and you don't want drama in yr rs. If you fall for her drama yr letting her be the leader
1. It's not rlly Abt being the "leader". It's more deeper and subtle than that
23. It's not what she says, it's what she does
2. Let her imagination fill in the blanks. Be mysterious in a playful way
3. Take woman's advice with a grain of salt. They give advice based on what they want you to feel
4. Woman know what they want, they just don't know how to express it
6. U gotta let her miss you and when her feminine side calls for you, you say YES. Why chase woman when they're already conditioned to do so
7. Kinda learned that the hard way but don't give definitions to the rs. Just go w the flow
8. Men instantly get carried by the woman (coz horny). Woman need time. And if men don't control their urges, woman gnna get creeped out. DONT BE SERIOUS. They know when we like them/are interested. Us men, we just project
9. Woman want to be in a love story, u talking bout yrself removing all the mystery from yrself ain't mysterious. Talking bout marriage is not mysterious. You need to make her feel comfortable before any of that
10. She's gonna test yr center, yr confidence. Don't fall prey(change yr beliefs to satisfy hers)
11. Make woman smile, no matter who they are and how the look
12. Complement woman with confidence, based on feelings
13. You don't have to and shouldn't constantly complement her at first. You simply being w her shows that you like her
14. The only girl you should have when talking to a girl is to make her smile, feel good about life, not necessarily Abt herself coz that would be complementing. And if she's not interested, it's her loss not ours
15. You should have an indifference mentality. You have an abundance of woman in yr life. Don't make it a big deal when when talking to new woman.
16. The more attracted she's to you, the easier it is in everything. Make her feel more comfortable around you, have more fun, carrying the Convo.
17. Before trying to engage in woman's emotions, you should first try gaining her trust. It's all how you approach her(abundance, indifference).
18. Rs should always start fun, nothing serious, it's the time to get closer through being good sexually attracted **friends**. If she tries to start talking Abt the rs in a serious matter, respond honestly but with humor. Make sure u don't define the rs
19. Put all yr attention to her and find out EVERYTHING Abt her
20. Men are like dogs, woman are like cats
21. Always lean towards not taking things seriously, choose to be playful instead of drama-tic
22. Pattern interrupt: get her to talk Abt the problem. Keep digging until she's penetrated w yr purpose of wanting to communicate. She can't sway away from my purpose. You set the tone, and you don't want drama in yr rs. If you fall for her drama yr letting her be the leader
1. It's not rlly Abt being the "leader". It's more deeper and subtle than that
23. It's not what she says, it's what she does
Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
5.0
- Adopt a "fixed volume" approach to productivity. It's better to begin from the assumption that tough choices are inevitable and to focus on making them consciously and well.
- Focus on one big project at a time and see it to completion before moving on to what's next.
- Decide in advance what to fail at. You'll inevitably end up underachieving at something, simply because your time and energy are finite.
- Focus on what you've already completed, not just on what's left to complete.
- Consciously pick your battles in charity, activism, and politics.
- Embrace boring and single-purpose technology; choose devices with only one purpose, such as the Kindle e-reader
- Seek out novelty in the mundane. Pay more attention to every moment, however mundane.
- When presented with a challenging or boring moment, try deliberately adopting an attitude of curiosity
- Whenever a generous impulse arises in your mind-to give money, check in on a friend, send an email praising someone's work- act on the impulse right away, rather than putting it off until later.
- Focus on one big project at a time and see it to completion before moving on to what's next.
- Decide in advance what to fail at. You'll inevitably end up underachieving at something, simply because your time and energy are finite.
- Focus on what you've already completed, not just on what's left to complete.
- Consciously pick your battles in charity, activism, and politics.
- Embrace boring and single-purpose technology; choose devices with only one purpose, such as the Kindle e-reader
- Seek out novelty in the mundane. Pay more attention to every moment, however mundane.
- When presented with a challenging or boring moment, try deliberately adopting an attitude of curiosity
- Whenever a generous impulse arises in your mind-to give money, check in on a friend, send an email praising someone's work- act on the impulse right away, rather than putting it off until later.
Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin
5.0
An audiobook is a TV show to yr ears. Just finished Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow and I feel just the same as I felt after finishing the TV show Lost. The feeling is so weird. It's hard to explain. It's like saying goodbye to a friend you've been with and known them through the whole stories' timeline