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NR. I'm really torn on this book. On one hand, I learned a lot and it gave me some great insight into myself/how I approach my relationship and even friendships. I appreciate the view that relationships are a learned skill!
On the other hand: The author suggested that your relationship can be the best treatment for anxiety/depression?! Also the claim that you shouldn't use therapy for anything you haven't discussed with your partner?! Coming from a literal doctor of psychology...no <3
Also maybe I'm just ~an island~ but I don't think the author left much room for the different types of people and relationships that exist, such as the role of friendship/external parties, the 24/7 rule which is an absolute nightmare, etc.
On the other hand: The author suggested that your relationship can be the best treatment for anxiety/depression?! Also the claim that you shouldn't use therapy for anything you haven't discussed with your partner?! Coming from a literal doctor of psychology...no <3
Also maybe I'm just ~an island~ but I don't think the author left much room for the different types of people and relationships that exist, such as the role of friendship/external parties, the 24/7 rule which is an absolute nightmare, etc.
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My therapist suggested I read this to address some of my issues with my partner, and I’m very glad I did. This book makes you think about romantic relationships in a different way. The advice is surprising at times and almost deceptively easy. I’m excited to share this book with my partner.
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This book is probably helpful if you are new to learning about the practice of healthy, intentional relationship- building, new to neuroscience of learning, and/or needing help with beginning to commun cate needs within your relationship. As someone who has done lots of reading on these topics, I found this book both basic and frustrating in its limitation to largely heteronormative and completely mononormative relationship dynamics. I didn't learn anything new, and honestly felt the author's alternative names for the attachment styles to be confusing since I am already familiar with attachment theory. That said, there are some good tidbits in here, and this might be a useful first relationship help book, particularly for straight monogamous couples. Unfortunately that's not me 🤷🏼♀️😅
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there were times were this book and it’s advice fell short. that being said, it’s definitely worth the read! just need to “trim the fat” of the unhelpful or unwise advice
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Whilst 'the 7 principles for making marriage work' is scientific studied stuff so maybe do read that one, this is just really user friendly. It's easy to read and distills some really helpful ideas into memorable 'points' sometimes we read a tonne of stuff and forget half of it but go to points like 'the couple bubble' changing anxious avoidance into 'anchor, wave and island' and 'no 3rd parties, your partner should be a priority (alcohol, work, friends, family members & AFAIRS). Yeah it's just a damn useful book and it told me off so bad. It validate, it explain, it atacc.