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4.5
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4.0
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Allyship, compassion, education

This book has more power than I can ever relay in totality. There’s a complete dissection of gender language, terminology, gender roles, misogyny, transphobia, queerphobia, and what it means to be an ally. The stories within can be hard to listen to, particularly as an empathetic, but it is crucial to listen to the stories of trans people and learn from them. But that doesn’t mean you should ask every trans person you know - you should rely on books like these.

There are tools to be more accepting and more compassionate to all. He/She/They provides real steps to fight back against transphobia in society and within ourselves. American’s live in a transphobic society and we should face that head on.

Please read this and digest it.

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This book is fantastic! This is actually my second time reading the book, as we selected it for book club after I'd read it previously. I listened to the audiobook on my first read, which was very well done. And I read the paperback this time around for a slightly different experience.
In He/She/They, Bailar gives us both a highly personal look into his life as a trans collegiate athlete as well as a detailed introduction to how to be a good ally to the trans community. He blends memoir with trans history and education to cover a variety of topics relevant to the trans experience. As a cishet woman, this book gave me better insight into the experience of trans people, provided me with tools to be a better ally, and will help me speak more intelligently against anti-trans legislation. If I ever have an opportunity to hear him speak in person, I would definitely take it!

2025: 4.5

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5.0
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