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3.87 AVERAGE
3.87 AVERAGE
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A measured and helpful approach to understanding the ways in which we talk to ourselves, how it affects our lives, and ways in which we can control the conversation.
I'm going to be honest. As someone who pretty much constantly has chatter, I initially wanted to read this book to get some silence and respite.
This book if anything made me change my perspective on it. Am excited to try to reframe my chatter when it gets negative, and be more in tune with it when it's positive.
A good pseudoscience book. May have been a tad to long and anecdotal which is why it get three stars.
This book if anything made me change my perspective on it. Am excited to try to reframe my chatter when it gets negative, and be more in tune with it when it's positive.
A good pseudoscience book. May have been a tad to long and anecdotal which is why it get three stars.
"Countless studies have linked the long-term activation of our stress-response systems with illnesses that span the gamut from cardiovascular disease to sleep disorders to various forms of cancer. This explains how stressful experiences such as feeling chronically isolated and alone can have drastic effects on our health. Indeed, not having a strong social-support network is a risk factor for death as large as smoking more than fifteen cigarettes a day, and a greater risk factor than consuming excessive amounts of alcohol, not exercising, being obese, or living in a highly polluted city."
"Effortlessly absorbing nature does the opposite: It allows the neural resources that guide our voluntary attention to recharge."
"Nadal is engaging in a process called compensatory control; he's creating order in his physical environment to provide him with the order he seeks internally."
"Tools you can Implement on your own:
1. Use distanced self talk
2. Imagine advising a friend
3. Broaden your perspective
4. Reframe your experience as a challenge
5. Reinterpret your body's chatter response
6. Normalize your experience
7. Engage in mental time travel
8. Change the view
9. Write expressively
10. Adopt the perspective of a neutral third party
11. Clutch a lucky charm or embrace a superstition
12. Perform a Ritual
Tools for providing chatter support:
1.Address people's emotional and cognitive needs
2.Provide invisible support
3. Tell your kids to pretend they're a superhero
4. Touch affectionately (but respectfully)
5. Be someone else's placebo
Tools for receiving chatter support:
1.Build a board of advisers
2. Seek out physical contact
3. Look at a photo of a loved one
4. Perform a ritual with others
5. Minimize passive social media usage
6. Use social media to gain support
Tools that involve the environment:
1. Create order in your environment
2. Increase your exposure to green spaces
3. Seek out awe-inspiring experiences "
"Effortlessly absorbing nature does the opposite: It allows the neural resources that guide our voluntary attention to recharge."
"Nadal is engaging in a process called compensatory control; he's creating order in his physical environment to provide him with the order he seeks internally."
"Tools you can Implement on your own:
1. Use distanced self talk
2. Imagine advising a friend
3. Broaden your perspective
4. Reframe your experience as a challenge
5. Reinterpret your body's chatter response
6. Normalize your experience
7. Engage in mental time travel
8. Change the view
9. Write expressively
10. Adopt the perspective of a neutral third party
11. Clutch a lucky charm or embrace a superstition
12. Perform a Ritual
Tools for providing chatter support:
1.Address people's emotional and cognitive needs
2.Provide invisible support
3. Tell your kids to pretend they're a superhero
4. Touch affectionately (but respectfully)
5. Be someone else's placebo
Tools for receiving chatter support:
1.Build a board of advisers
2. Seek out physical contact
3. Look at a photo of a loved one
4. Perform a ritual with others
5. Minimize passive social media usage
6. Use social media to gain support
Tools that involve the environment:
1. Create order in your environment
2. Increase your exposure to green spaces
3. Seek out awe-inspiring experiences "
I only got halfway through but it became more grating with each chapter. This book has nothing new to say. It's filled with anecdotes upon anecdotes. This book could've been a blog post.
Edit: I finished it and it still didn't convince me to change my rating. If you find this book, just skip to the end and read the last chapter. It still didn't give me anything new, but at least it skips all the fluff and tells you everything the book has to offer in terms of usable information.
Edit: I finished it and it still didn't convince me to change my rating. If you find this book, just skip to the end and read the last chapter. It still didn't give me anything new, but at least it skips all the fluff and tells you everything the book has to offer in terms of usable information.
Fascinating exploration of our "inner critic" - how to understand its influence on us and what we can do about it. Kross does a nice job of exploring highlights from the research literature and drawing upon the research for recommendations on how to manage our inner voice so as to minimize its negative effects and improve our state of being. I listened to this as an audiobook on long early morning walks, but this is one I'll return to as a physical book so that I can read it more carefully and absorb what it has to teach me.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
As someone who has been subject to chatter for large swathes of my teenage and adult life, the concept of the book grabbed me from the first time I heard my friends discussing it. Coming around to reading it took me a while, mainly because I didn’t want to read something too heavy (both emotionally and physically - I got the book in hardback form at Christmas one year)
I enjoyed Kross’ style of writing a lot, and the way that the chapters flowed into each other. The advice was interesting and written in an easy to read and digest way, and left me wanting to reread to pick up on the tools discussed… until I saw that the author had a handy cheat sheet of the tools discussed at the back!
While some of the suggestions didn’t seem like they would speak to my particular mind, I nevertheless think that everyone can benefit from reading this in some way or another. A fascinating and eye-opening book.
I enjoyed Kross’ style of writing a lot, and the way that the chapters flowed into each other. The advice was interesting and written in an easy to read and digest way, and left me wanting to reread to pick up on the tools discussed… until I saw that the author had a handy cheat sheet of the tools discussed at the back!
While some of the suggestions didn’t seem like they would speak to my particular mind, I nevertheless think that everyone can benefit from reading this in some way or another. A fascinating and eye-opening book.
Too much “chatter” by the author! I didn’t find anything useful here. Even the list of “tools” at the end of the book were too vague and wordy to be useful.
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informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced