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I mean, it's good to know these things, but is this THE secret to love that lasts? I doubt it. Also, Chapman seems to believe that there is no such thing as the wrong partner for you - you just need to find their love language and voila!
Audiobook was read by the author who has a huge southern drawl. Made for some good listening:
Pronunciation (translation)
Uh-gay-ann (again)
Free-Ed (Fred)
Free-end (friend)
Hee-em (Him)
Jay-an (Jan)
Maay (me)
As a parent, I enjoyed the section on kids towards the end.
The 5 Love Languages
1. Words of Affirmation
Love makes requests, not demands
“Possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated “
- William James
2. Quality Time
The language of quality time has many dialects; one of the most common is quality conversation.
Tips for quality conversion:
- maintain eye contact
- Listen for feelings (what emotion is my partner feeling?)
- Observe body language
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Pronunciation (translation)
Uh-gay-ann (again)
Free-Ed (Fred)
Free-end (friend)
Hee-em (Him)
Jay-an (Jan)
Maay (me)
As a parent, I enjoyed the section on kids towards the end.
The 5 Love Languages
1. Words of Affirmation
Love makes requests, not demands
“Possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated “
- William James
2. Quality Time
The language of quality time has many dialects; one of the most common is quality conversation.
Tips for quality conversion:
- maintain eye contact
- Listen for feelings (what emotion is my partner feeling?)
- Observe body language
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
informative
reflective
medium-paced
Great Read
This book is a must read in understanding one self and relationships with others. I understood myself in a new way, I am now able to communicate how I feel better without lashing out.
This book is a must read in understanding one self and relationships with others. I understood myself in a new way, I am now able to communicate how I feel better without lashing out.
While the writing itself is quipped and very formulaic, I did find a lot of clarity in how to be a better partner and friend. There was also a lot of self-exploration and soul searching done on my behalf as I read and I came to realize why so many of my prior relationships failed.
Quality Time and Words of Affirmation are what I consistently need from a partner, but I lacked the ability to define or express that need. I feel a sense of clarity to know the needs of myself and the needs of my partner.
However, I didn't care for the frequent references to Christianity, as this would likely open itself to dismissal by anyone who does not follow a Christian Doctrine. Additionally, the analysis was incredibly heteronormative and would likely alienate any reader of the LGBTQ community, though the concepts could easily apply to non-heterosexual couples.
Overall the book was a very easy read and would benefit anyone who feels as though they frequently miss out on expressing love or do not feel love from their partner. I now find myself pointing out the love languages expressed in songs and movies as well as the people I meet.
Quality Time and Words of Affirmation are what I consistently need from a partner, but I lacked the ability to define or express that need. I feel a sense of clarity to know the needs of myself and the needs of my partner.
However, I didn't care for the frequent references to Christianity, as this would likely open itself to dismissal by anyone who does not follow a Christian Doctrine. Additionally, the analysis was incredibly heteronormative and would likely alienate any reader of the LGBTQ community, though the concepts could easily apply to non-heterosexual couples.
Overall the book was a very easy read and would benefit anyone who feels as though they frequently miss out on expressing love or do not feel love from their partner. I now find myself pointing out the love languages expressed in songs and movies as well as the people I meet.
OK, this book wasn't actually dating advice; it was aimed at married couples. And while I got the sense that the author was, as a friend once whispered to me, "Into The J.C.", it's not overtly Christian. It was about how people communicate love, which he breaks into 5 types and talks about how to work with your spouse's type.
I have no idea if it'd work or anything, but at least it's a really, really short book. He apparently has tailored this for every iteration of relationship, but, this seems like it'd do you if you're curious about the concept and it's all your library has. (Second marriage advice book in a month, let's quit with that, shall we? Bad selecting off the to-read list.)
I have no idea if it'd work or anything, but at least it's a really, really short book. He apparently has tailored this for every iteration of relationship, but, this seems like it'd do you if you're curious about the concept and it's all your library has. (Second marriage advice book in a month, let's quit with that, shall we? Bad selecting off the to-read list.)
Sort of simplistic, but also a nice way of looking at things. I particularly like the section about thinking about love languages of your kids. Made me realize my parents did a great job of raising me in a way that resonated with me!
Could have done without the religious overtones though....
Could have done without the religious overtones though....
Any book that's going to help with communication and understanding in a relationship is a good book by my standards. While this is not my first time reading The 5 Love Languages, it was one of the first times I've read it (or in this case, listened to it) through the lens of my marriage.
While there are some pretty simple lessons and common-sense takeaways, it served as a good reminder that we all need love expressed in different ways. I'd definitely recommend to anyone interested in learning more about how different people communicate.
While there are some pretty simple lessons and common-sense takeaways, it served as a good reminder that we all need love expressed in different ways. I'd definitely recommend to anyone interested in learning more about how different people communicate.
Love the love languages, could have done without the religion
I’ve always been fascinated by the love languages but I didn’t realize how much this book would mention god and the church. That was a bit of a turn off, god isn’t part of my relationship and my faith or lack there of has no motivation towards my relationship. Learning about the 5 love languages was interesting going more in depth, but now there’s so much information online it could be worth it to just read up there. At least maybe there’s less god.
I’ve always been fascinated by the love languages but I didn’t realize how much this book would mention god and the church. That was a bit of a turn off, god isn’t part of my relationship and my faith or lack there of has no motivation towards my relationship. Learning about the 5 love languages was interesting going more in depth, but now there’s so much information online it could be worth it to just read up there. At least maybe there’s less god.