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han_cat's review against another edition
3.0
Was initially really excited about this book. The first few chapters deserved that excitement they were interesting – full of “gossipy” detail balanced well by the calm/authoritative reason of the author. But really it was just too long, maybe 3 marriages would have been enough. Last couple of chapters were a real effort to read.
Shame, because there really isn’t anything else like this out there and it is a potentially really rich and interesting topic. Also the author clearly has the ability to write well, it just got a bit pulled out of shape somehow ….
Shame, because there really isn’t anything else like this out there and it is a potentially really rich and interesting topic. Also the author clearly has the ability to write well, it just got a bit pulled out of shape somehow ….
libs's review
informative
medium-paced
3.0
This came up on my library's search page when I was looking for a Sheila Heti book; Heti wrote a foreword in 2020, and I suppose I expected something Heti-esque from it, and definitely something gossipy. And - it is certainly gossipy in parts. I did find myself skimming through certain parts though. Overall, an interesting peek into marriage, not just in the Victorian times, but in the 1980s too, and all those shifting attitudes.
classysmarta's review against another edition
4.0
It was an interesting collection of narrative and commentary on the politics of a select collection of Victorian writer’s marriages. Majority of them unhappy but the discussion of the nuances and circumstances of the marriages was intriguing. I only felt the end with the return to the Carlyle’s dragged a bit.
ahsimlibrarian's review
5.0
I came across a copy of Parallel Lives: Five Victorian Marriages by Phyllis Rose at a library book sale. I have passed by copies of the book many times, but did not decide to read it until I bought a copy. I am a slow nonfiction reader typically, and I read this slowly, but I found it so captivating that I couldn’t wait to have a moment to pick it up and dive back in.
Why did I find a book about five Victorian marriages so captivating? For one, Rose illustrates just how rich and complex her subject is—for one, by choosing important intellectuals and writers of the time. She looks at the marriages of Jane Welsh and Thomas Carlyle, Effie Gray and John Ruskin, Harriet Taylor and John Stuart Mill, Catherine Hogarth and Charles Dickens, and George Eliot and George Henry Lewes. George Eliot and George Lewes were the only couple who weren’t, in the eyes of the law, married at all, and their union was the happiest of them. But beyond happy or unhappy, these glimpses into the domestic lives of the Victorians are illuminating.
Rose keeps plying home her belief that things are always more complicated than our society wants to make them. “Easy stories drive out hard ones. Simple paradigms prevail over complicated ones.” And the stories we choose to tell about ourselves have a lot to do with how we live and see our lives and our connections to other people. Rose says this better: “all living is a creative act of greater or lesser authenticity, hindered or helped by the fictions to which we submit ourselves.”
Parallel Lives did exactly what I hope to find when I pick up a nonfiction book—it made me care about something I thought I had no interest in. I found that every chapter brought up thought-provoking and fascinating food for thought.
This would be a wonderful book for discussion. It offers no easy answers. And its subjects offer up so many possibilities for further reading. You could read this book in conjunction with a novel by Charles Dickens, and talk about how his work’s embrace of domestic sanguinity was contradictory to his life choices. You can read John Stuart Mill’s The Subjection of Women or On Liberty, with the thought that his wife, Harriet Taylor, had a hand in his writing. Or you can read Middlemarch, and discuss how her views of marriage and society’s views were explored in her fiction. Like I said, lots to discuss.
Why did I find a book about five Victorian marriages so captivating? For one, Rose illustrates just how rich and complex her subject is—for one, by choosing important intellectuals and writers of the time. She looks at the marriages of Jane Welsh and Thomas Carlyle, Effie Gray and John Ruskin, Harriet Taylor and John Stuart Mill, Catherine Hogarth and Charles Dickens, and George Eliot and George Henry Lewes. George Eliot and George Lewes were the only couple who weren’t, in the eyes of the law, married at all, and their union was the happiest of them. But beyond happy or unhappy, these glimpses into the domestic lives of the Victorians are illuminating.
Rose keeps plying home her belief that things are always more complicated than our society wants to make them. “Easy stories drive out hard ones. Simple paradigms prevail over complicated ones.” And the stories we choose to tell about ourselves have a lot to do with how we live and see our lives and our connections to other people. Rose says this better: “all living is a creative act of greater or lesser authenticity, hindered or helped by the fictions to which we submit ourselves.”
Parallel Lives did exactly what I hope to find when I pick up a nonfiction book—it made me care about something I thought I had no interest in. I found that every chapter brought up thought-provoking and fascinating food for thought.
This would be a wonderful book for discussion. It offers no easy answers. And its subjects offer up so many possibilities for further reading. You could read this book in conjunction with a novel by Charles Dickens, and talk about how his work’s embrace of domestic sanguinity was contradictory to his life choices. You can read John Stuart Mill’s The Subjection of Women or On Liberty, with the thought that his wife, Harriet Taylor, had a hand in his writing. Or you can read Middlemarch, and discuss how her views of marriage and society’s views were explored in her fiction. Like I said, lots to discuss.
savvyliterate's review
4.0
This was an excellent look at five marriages among literary couples in Victorian England. Furthermore, it's great insight into the views concerning sexuality and women's rights back then.
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