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3.74 AVERAGE
3.74 AVERAGE
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Speaking to power ideas that have been half baked and writhing in me for years. I’ve been calling this idea “holistic selfishness” but this is it. And i appreciate all the different angles from which Neff applies this lens.
Recommended by my DBT therapist to work on my self compassion, and I can’t be more grateful for the rec.
Recommended by my DBT therapist to work on my self compassion, and I can’t be more grateful for the rec.
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hopeful
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Some good advice here
A little woo woo at times
But overall nice
A little woo woo at times
But overall nice
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
I really enjoyed reading this. Taking a few days to do so allowed me to ponder chapters at a time and I did some of the exercises. As I read, I thought time and time again how useful the exercises would have been for a past me, who suffered from high anxiety and perfectionism, and who had several panic attacks during graduate school. I will definitely keep this book close by for when I need it!
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This book was a disappointment after feeling so fundamentally changed by the original, Self-Compassion. First, I didn’t like the implicit centering of white women in this book. There were certainly a good number of nods to racial and cultural differences, but most of the time when she is talking about "women," she is talking about white women, thereby necessarily limiting the relevance and impact of her work, as well as being complicit with white supremacy culture. Further, she does acknowledge that "woman" is an expanding category, but the gender binary is so deeply entrenched in her perspective on the research, I'm just not sure how valuable this perspective is if I want a way for moving beyond it.
Second, I didn't like the appropriative metaphors of Yin and Yang, and of the Hindu goddess, Kali. No doubt her intentions were to pay homage to those cultural references, but they ended up feeling shallow and as simply vehicles for conveying her own ideas. In one instance, she used the Yin-Yang metaphor to victim-blame. In a chapter about pervasive sexual harassment happening at an autism center she was involved in, she says women who had "more Yang energy" were more likely to be left alone by the harasser.
Third, there was a lot of use of colonizer language, such as "minority," "differently abled," "able-bodied," "obesity," and even a denigrating comment about "rap music." Bleh.
The one thing I did like about it was the abundance of somatic exercises related to mindful self-compassion.
Second, I didn't like the appropriative metaphors of Yin and Yang, and of the Hindu goddess, Kali. No doubt her intentions were to pay homage to those cultural references, but they ended up feeling shallow and as simply vehicles for conveying her own ideas. In one instance, she used the Yin-Yang metaphor to victim-blame. In a chapter about pervasive sexual harassment happening at an autism center she was involved in, she says women who had "more Yang energy" were more likely to be left alone by the harasser.
Third, there was a lot of use of colonizer language, such as "minority," "differently abled," "able-bodied," "obesity," and even a denigrating comment about "rap music." Bleh.
The one thing I did like about it was the abundance of somatic exercises related to mindful self-compassion.
Lots of research in there to support the author's directions. Looking forward to downloading some of the meditations.
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced