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Very similar to her previous book, but I appreciated the nuances about living in a patriarchal society and how that affects fierceness.
Some fave lines:
P. 215: I helped her see that the motivation of self-compassion doesn't always mean doing better. Well fearsness and courage is also try our best to improve, we also need tenderness to accept our limitations.
P. 245: I remember lying in bed, putting both hands on my heart, and crying all night. I told myself, "This really hurts. I feel so insane. So on valued period but I see you, Kristen. I value you and honor how hard you've worked to bring more compassion to this world. I'm so sorry that your department and university have different values. But it has nothing to do with you or the worth of your scholarship." I allowed the storm to arrive to let loose the deluge of wind, rain, and thunder and move on.
P. 253: instead of looking to others for a sense of worthiness and approval, it's possible to turn inward to our own Wellspring of warmth and Goodwill as a source. It may sound like a tall order, but this is the power of self-compassion. We embrace ourselves, flaws and all, and value ourselves because of, not in spite of, our imperfections. We honor our strengths and our weaknesses. We don't need to do anything to earn the acceptance; we claim it as our birthright.
P. 265: I put both hands over my heart and started rocking back and forth. I whispered to myself, "it's going to be okay, darling. You'll get through this. You're doing the best you can."
P. 383: it's as if I, Kristin, am no longer controlling things or making decisions in my life, but am rather just supporting and helping myself as it unfolds moment by moment. By letting go of identification with the self who knows things and controls things comma I feel lighter inside — both in terms of feeling less bogged down and feeling more full of light.
Some fave lines:
P. 215: I helped her see that the motivation of self-compassion doesn't always mean doing better. Well fearsness and courage is also try our best to improve, we also need tenderness to accept our limitations.
P. 245: I remember lying in bed, putting both hands on my heart, and crying all night. I told myself, "This really hurts. I feel so insane. So on valued period but I see you, Kristen. I value you and honor how hard you've worked to bring more compassion to this world. I'm so sorry that your department and university have different values. But it has nothing to do with you or the worth of your scholarship." I allowed the storm to arrive to let loose the deluge of wind, rain, and thunder and move on.
P. 253: instead of looking to others for a sense of worthiness and approval, it's possible to turn inward to our own Wellspring of warmth and Goodwill as a source. It may sound like a tall order, but this is the power of self-compassion. We embrace ourselves, flaws and all, and value ourselves because of, not in spite of, our imperfections. We honor our strengths and our weaknesses. We don't need to do anything to earn the acceptance; we claim it as our birthright.
P. 265: I put both hands over my heart and started rocking back and forth. I whispered to myself, "it's going to be okay, darling. You'll get through this. You're doing the best you can."
P. 383: it's as if I, Kristin, am no longer controlling things or making decisions in my life, but am rather just supporting and helping myself as it unfolds moment by moment. By letting go of identification with the self who knows things and controls things comma I feel lighter inside — both in terms of feeling less bogged down and feeling more full of light.
Okay, but thinking of both tender and fierce self compassion is a game changer!!! Really!!! A much needed read, especially for people who identify as women!
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Super helpful and inspiring
I struggled a bit with the concepts in Self-Compassion and liked this book at lot more, to harness the anger and passion to advocate for myself.
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THIS BOOK⬆️ I feel like I have been recommending it to every woman I know, love, and care about. There is something in this for everyone—no matter your stage or season of life. This book offers so much, but I’m just going to touch on a few key things that were impactful for me personally. Different people will definitely have different take aways.
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Integrating more positive self-talk was the reason I picked up this book. To be quite honest, I’m not very kind to myself and would never talk to others the way I talk to myself. I have already begun to incorporate the guided meditations and language into my daily self-talk. The meditations give you the tools to work through various challenging situations that arise by giving yourself grace, kindness, and love rather than criticism. I really love how @neffselfcompassion offers suggestions for the phrases/language to use during these meditations but stresses that you need to use words that work best for you. I know it may seem silly at first, but I promise you it’s so powerful.
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I was truly fascinated by the ideas of yin and yang energy. For those that know me, I have some seriously fierce yang energy, and I now view this fierceness in a more positive light. This book also gave me a new perspective on anger. Anger isn’t a negative trait or quality. Rather, it’s a protective tool that signals to us to turn inwards and reflect on what we need/what need is being unmet.
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I also really appreciated the discussions on boundaries and when to say “yes” to others. As women, we are conditioned to feel like we must constantly put others’ needs first and care for everyone around us before ourselves. This book does a great job describing how it’s important to help/give to others when we are able but also gives some great refection/language for when/how to say no so that we can still care for ourselves and avoid burnout.
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This is truly a transformative book! I am finding that my inner monologue is much kinder, and this has led me to have more compassion for others by really focusing on the idea that everyone is doing the best they can. Everyone has hard things going on, and we all could use a little more love and kindness. I cannot stress how much you NEED to read this book. It’s likely many people will be receiving this book as a gift from me at some point this year. ❤️🩷💜
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Check out what I’m reading next on Instagram @LeahsLitReview!
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Integrating more positive self-talk was the reason I picked up this book. To be quite honest, I’m not very kind to myself and would never talk to others the way I talk to myself. I have already begun to incorporate the guided meditations and language into my daily self-talk. The meditations give you the tools to work through various challenging situations that arise by giving yourself grace, kindness, and love rather than criticism. I really love how @neffselfcompassion offers suggestions for the phrases/language to use during these meditations but stresses that you need to use words that work best for you. I know it may seem silly at first, but I promise you it’s so powerful.
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I was truly fascinated by the ideas of yin and yang energy. For those that know me, I have some seriously fierce yang energy, and I now view this fierceness in a more positive light. This book also gave me a new perspective on anger. Anger isn’t a negative trait or quality. Rather, it’s a protective tool that signals to us to turn inwards and reflect on what we need/what need is being unmet.
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I also really appreciated the discussions on boundaries and when to say “yes” to others. As women, we are conditioned to feel like we must constantly put others’ needs first and care for everyone around us before ourselves. This book does a great job describing how it’s important to help/give to others when we are able but also gives some great refection/language for when/how to say no so that we can still care for ourselves and avoid burnout.
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This is truly a transformative book! I am finding that my inner monologue is much kinder, and this has led me to have more compassion for others by really focusing on the idea that everyone is doing the best they can. Everyone has hard things going on, and we all could use a little more love and kindness. I cannot stress how much you NEED to read this book. It’s likely many people will be receiving this book as a gift from me at some point this year. ❤️🩷💜
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Check out what I’m reading next on Instagram @LeahsLitReview!
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexism
Moderate: Child abuse, Sexual assault