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Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed by Kevin McConaghy, Jonathan "JP" Pokluda
ametakinetos's review
4.0
Listen, like any Christian dating book, it has to be taken with the grain of salt that very little in terms of explicit rules is stated in the Bible concerning dating. Largely the legislation and social norm created surrounding Christian dating depends on your interpretation of adiaphora and how you read certain verses.
On the whole, this book does a wonderful job of informing a Christian's dating life. It sets the decisive goal of being equally yoked to a strong believer in marriage and putting God at the center. All heartbreak is not avoidable, but certainly a lot of it could be bypassed by viewing dating purposefully and from the perspective of eternity instead of temporary satisfaction and infatuation. For some, they best accomplish the aforementioned goal by setting immovable boundaries for themselves and approaching dating almost algorithmically with black-and-white decisiveness, while others prefer to pray their way through and understand where God is leading them in accordance with His Word and guidance in each situation. I don't think either is wrong or more right. People are gifted differently and "dating", as it is entirely our own construction, can be flexible.
This book is a great resource to have in the toolbox, but just like anything else has to be read critically through the lens of the Bible and how God has individually gifted and charged you. Definitely a good one for a roundtable discussion or to read before embarking upon dating to set the intention.
On the whole, this book does a wonderful job of informing a Christian's dating life. It sets the decisive goal of being equally yoked to a strong believer in marriage and putting God at the center. All heartbreak is not avoidable, but certainly a lot of it could be bypassed by viewing dating purposefully and from the perspective of eternity instead of temporary satisfaction and infatuation. For some, they best accomplish the aforementioned goal by setting immovable boundaries for themselves and approaching dating almost algorithmically with black-and-white decisiveness, while others prefer to pray their way through and understand where God is leading them in accordance with His Word and guidance in each situation. I don't think either is wrong or more right. People are gifted differently and "dating", as it is entirely our own construction, can be flexible.
This book is a great resource to have in the toolbox, but just like anything else has to be read critically through the lens of the Bible and how God has individually gifted and charged you. Definitely a good one for a roundtable discussion or to read before embarking upon dating to set the intention.
hanmglee's review
4.0
good book-
thought he was a stickler with some points but truly he wasn’t afraid to speak the truth and we all need to hear it. good reminders and I recommend.
thought he was a stickler with some points but truly he wasn’t afraid to speak the truth and we all need to hear it. good reminders and I recommend.
victoriarad's review against another edition
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
So good! While I've definitely heard the majority of this information (avid consumer of the Becoming Something Podcast where they've talked about these topics) listening to this book came at just the right time. Given my current relationship status, this book was such an excellent reminder of what God's intentions are for singleness, dating, and relationships and JP's advice on how to navigate it all and backed by scripture. JP is just a voice of wisdom and truth in this world where young people desperately need it. HIGHLY recommend!!
hannahgunther's review
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
fast-paced
4.5
Ground rules for Christian dating from a practical and biblical perspective. JP is comically candid, making it an enjoyable and informative read or listen. This book will leave you feeling hopeful and determined about dating!