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4.05 AVERAGE
4.05 AVERAGE
informative
reflective
medium-paced
informative
reflective
medium-paced
Fascinating deep dive into the world of introversion and extroversion. Some meaningful parts of our temperament are genetic and passed down from our parents. If you’re a fussy, highly sensitive baby at four months, there’s a good chance you’ll grow up to be introverted. There seems to be a biological connection between high physical sensitivity and introversion.
Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments—both physical and emotional—unusually deeply. They tend to notice subtleties that others miss—another person’s shift in mood, say, or a lightbulb burning a touch too brightly.
According to Cain, bloggers are almost always introverts. We’ll share personal details with an online multitude they would never disclose at a cocktail party. This is me.
The U.S. is one of the most extroverted countries in the world, while countries in Asia rank among the most introverted. The difference relates in part to genetics but mostly to cultural norms.
Social anxiety disorder in Japan, known as taijin kyofusho, takes the form not of excessive worry about embarrassing oneself, as it does in the United States, but of embarrassing others.
Best takeaway: An introverted/extroverted couple likely has a conflict in their degree of shared sociability. Cain recommends a “Free Trait Agreement” where each partner agrees to a balance of activities in their free time, i.e., a wife who wants to go out every Saturday night and a husband who wants to relax by the firework out a schedule: half the time they’ll go out, and half the time they’ll stay home. Helpful for this INTJ.
informative
inspiring
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slow-paced
Good book! It got slow and it tends to take too long to explain things which is why it took me so long to read. But it was VERY validating about my experience as an introvert in American society. Highly recommend for other introverts to read and for extroverts to understand our experience.
Everyone should read this book. If you are an introvert, then you will finally understand how to manage in today's culture of extrovert personality is best mentality. If you are an extrovert, you will understand how the other half works.
challenging
informative
reflective
slow-paced
I have two main takeaways from this book:
- Being extroverted or introverted are both equally valuable—regardless of whether a culture views one as superior to the other.
- As I listened to the last few chapters, I found myself reflecting on the importance of ensuring that no one gets left behind. Parents and teachers should avoid pushing children into molds we believe they should fit into. Instead, we should recognize and nurture their individual strengths.
One key idea I want to implement is encouraging students to develop their own ideas individually before bringing them into a group setting. This approach ensures that quieter voices have the space to form and express their thoughts without being overshadowed.
I am reading this book for my daughter. She is extremely sensitive about certain things such as peopling (our word for when she has had too much too socializing and needs some alone time). As a former businesswomen and teacher I was interested in this book to see how Cain would spin the introvert from the business point of view. I found out that I am an introvert with ambivert tendencies, this helps me explains why I do not enjoy conflict. I can now better understand my daughter's level of awareness.
I loves reading this book! As a very prominent extrovert, I loved getting a closer look at the introverts in my life and how to best support them in all aspects of their lives. An excellent read!
I read this book slowly -- over the course of several months. This wasn't by design, nor was it because it was dense and difficult. Part circumstance and part wanting to let good ideas seep in slowly, this was a great way to read this great book. This book helped me know myself, my family, and my students in a new way. I like us so much better now! :). How wonderful it is to have introverts in our lives! And no wonder, as a true ambivert, that I've been an enigma to colleagues. (Theater artist? Yes! Impromptu speaker? Yikes!). HIGHLY recommend.
Strong, in-depth book that brings great research the explanation of how introverts see the world, and how they develop as children. I would give this a four, but the last chapter unfortunately becomes a self-help book, which I thought the rest of the chapters did a good job avoiding.
This was enlightening to me. I've learned to appreciate my introverted personality more since reading.