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eleana's review against another edition
challenging
reflective
medium-paced
3.25
I found this book interesting in many ways. I can imagine this being very helpful to someone picking this up who's never been in therapy before, and I'll definitely take some bits of advice from this as well. I did find it a bit uncomfortable how trauma is simplified in this and not particularly acknowledged. Dr Jonice herself acknowledges there's no research on Emotional Neglect and if you look at her references at the end of this book it's all about trauma and attachment theory, so it did feel a bit odd how little those are mentioned. This was marketed at the person with "no trauma, but something is wrong" and it did feel like she was trying to sell herself as an expert in something new, but this is well studied. It's hard to put my finger on it exactly, but it felt a bit more insidious than other psychology books I've read that deal with similar issues and the constant mentions of her website and the expert of book 2 on emotional neglect (which has an identical intro to this one!) made me all the more uncomfortable. For those reasons I wouldn't necessarily recommend this unless you read a lot more psychology and self help books first and form a fuller picture.
soldieroftheheart's review against another edition
1.5
This book is for you if: you suspect, but are unsure, if you may have been emotionally neglected as a child. You would like to identify what ways your parents may have emotionally neglected you and how that has affected you as an adult.
Personally, I was already aware of what happened to me as a child, how my parents contributed to that, and the effect it has had on me as an adult. I was looking for guidance on how to heal and move forward towards a healthy emotional state. There is very little if any actual advice of that type in the book, basically “practice treating yourself better”. I don’t need a book to tell me that.
I found the use of “overcoming” in the title misleading, as there is very little material about overcoming, but rather just describing what emotional neglect is and how it can look, as well as descriptions of patients. The end of every patient story is “After years of therapy, they got better.” Just saying that doesn’t help any of us, the readers, get better.
Personally, I was already aware of what happened to me as a child, how my parents contributed to that, and the effect it has had on me as an adult. I was looking for guidance on how to heal and move forward towards a healthy emotional state. There is very little if any actual advice of that type in the book, basically “practice treating yourself better”. I don’t need a book to tell me that.
I found the use of “overcoming” in the title misleading, as there is very little material about overcoming, but rather just describing what emotional neglect is and how it can look, as well as descriptions of patients. The end of every patient story is “After years of therapy, they got better.” Just saying that doesn’t help any of us, the readers, get better.
hartmancb's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
3.5
I listened to this as an audiobook as a recommendation in a book club. I often struggle with paying attention to audiobooks and felt that the narration was quite robotic. I think it’s very detailed and has a ton of information and might be better received as a written book. There are lots of resources she provides on her website and worksheets for self growth. The ending focuses on how to parent, which I could not identify with. Overall good information but I would rather have read than listened.
icantcontroltheweather's review against another edition
4.0
Very insightful and could recommend to basically any millennial with boomer parents