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Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility
Foster Cline, Jim Fay
3.75 AVERAGE
159 reviews for:
Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility
Foster Cline, Jim Fay
3.75 AVERAGE
There are a lot of great techniques in this book, but some that I question. It seems that the object of L&L parenting is to be constantly teaching the child a lesson. I think that sometimes going out of your way to "teach them a lesson" is artificial and even on occasion harsh. I think about the way our Father in Heaven would parent us. He allows us to suffer the consequences of our mistakes but doesn't "rub it in", or set us up for failure.
Having listened to a number of L&L cds and read a couple of the books I also feel that the authors have a very limited number of lessons to teach, they just keep repackaging them in order to make more money. I have a limited tolerance for parenting "experts" who are so self-promoting.
Having listened to a number of L&L cds and read a couple of the books I also feel that the authors have a very limited number of lessons to teach, they just keep repackaging them in order to make more money. I have a limited tolerance for parenting "experts" who are so self-promoting.
I had used the "Teaching with Love and Logic" and so this was a nice "refresher" for me with a parenting approach. I like the idea of natural consequences and teaching children personal responsibility. It feels like this is very natural to what we already do with our daughter.
This book is not for the faint of heart. There are times that I hear the practices of parenting and I think, “wow that is a really detached response,” or I wonder, “was that even a harsh enough punishment?” Overall, the message and the logic behind this book is practical and counter cultural to the way most children were raised. The biggest concept in this book is that eventually kids have to think for themselves so if you are always doing all the thinking for them, how will they learn to make wise decisions? I highly recommend this book to anyone who works with/has children.
Cline and Fay cover a wide range of parenting situations, both traditional (bedtimes, chores) and modern (video games). I didn't agree with everything, but I always understood their point view. Lots of concrete examples. I really like when they gave example scripts of exactly what to say to a child, which really helps put their suggestions into action. I think it's a fine read for anyone regularly put in a parenting role.
To me, this book seems higher on the logic and lower on the love. While the idea of both natural and logical consequences continues to be a helpful one in my parenting journey, I think that this book takes it too far. As my husband said: "what if you or I forgot something? Would we help each other out, or allow the other to experience the consequence so it wouldn't happen again?" The answer depends on the situation and all its complexities. This book allows little in the form of grace, compassion, and understanding.
Just finished reading this for work. I was very cynical at first, but I learned a lot from this book. More than anything, I found a lot of truth in it by comparing my parents' parenting styles and the behavioral patterns I've exhibited. So I'm convinced that at the very least, these guys are right about what's wrong. Now, I'm trying out what they say is right, and hoping for great results. Their recommendations are challenging, but nothing good ever came easily, right?
medium-paced
Meh, not really sure how to rate this one. I realized (when trying to figure out what wasn't jiving with me) that I enjoy parenting books that are researched based. This book is more the authors' opinions/techniques that they have employed with their kids, but none of it is grounded in any kind of research. Some of it was outright bizarre and I had to read one section to my kids because it was so funny/odd to me. There were definitely a few parts that I liked, giving kids choices, empathizing with them when they are upset, but all in all it's not one I would really recommend to friends. Especially when there are some really fabulous parenting books out there. Glad it was a library read.
Like any self-help book, there are points I like and some I don't. I like the overall mantra of giving choices and showing empathy when they suffer consequences. The application part is of course the tricky part. I like it enough to read another in the series focusing on toddlerhood.
The first half of this book is the theory. The second half is a "cookbook" to look up particular "recipes" for particular situations.
D & I took a class about this book with a facilitator and it was rewarding and liberating in our parenting.
D & I took a class about this book with a facilitator and it was rewarding and liberating in our parenting.