The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved by Esther Perel

4.26 AVERAGE

johnnnyyy's review against another edition

4.25
challenging emotional informative reflective medium-paced
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aurora_because's review against another edition

5.0
I had heard Esther Perel on several podcasts and enjoyed her perspective so much that I immediately placed holds on both of her books. What incredible insight into the under workings of relationships and the individuals in them! I love that her writing is inclusive of all varieties of relationships, not just two party heterosexual ones.
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brunadrv's review against another edition

3.0
informative reflective slow-paced
The author brings interesting ideas, but she spends too much time on detailing patient’s lives and sessions with them, and repeats concepts many times. This book could’ve been 50% shorter with a little more thoughtful editing.

vacantbones's review against another edition

5.0
i first stumbled upon the work of Esther Perel as a young college student, deep in the trenches of human sexuality studies. her work was revelatory for me. in the time since (and boy does that clock keep ticking) my own ideas about sexuality and what i want in life have kept on swinging like a pendulum. even with the seasons of my own life coming and going, changing and shifting as i continue to grow, Perel's writing has continued to speak to me. as a brief example: while Perel's framing of polyamory worked more for me as a younger adult than it does now, i still read what she has to say with full interest.

this one, admittedly, also challenged some of my preconceived ideals regarding infidelity all while soothing my need to read about other people's mess.

wish i would've read this one sooner!

bluepeng04's review against another edition

4.5
challenging emotional informative fast-paced

sarina_z's review against another edition

5.0
Fascinating and interesting to read about our expectations of relationships

mirindashi's review against another edition

3.0
3.25

tobyw's review against another edition

3.5
Interesting stories and observations, but the book could have been significantly shorter without losing the content. When I finished it, I just felt glad to be done with it.

grace_ann's review against another edition

5.0
Perel fearlessly breaches the foreign but familiar, too close to home topic of infidelity and has given us an invaluable resource and tool for our relationships.

peachyytyy's review against another edition

4.5
informative slow-paced