Un enfer

Absolutely asinine unless maybe you are married to a Neanderthal who grunts instead of having conversations.

I was really dragging myself through this very old fashion perspective on love and relationships book. This was terrible. Why was it painted in a way where aliens are our metaphors and we are excused for some ridiculous stunted emotional behaviors ? This was written by a man, and as a man myself it really felt like this book was placing a burden of emotional labor on women for the most part. Explaining how we need time to be in our caves because of a certain way we feel and that women have to deal with it. There was even a part during the middle of the book where it tries turning the beautiful thing that love and intimacy is to a mathematical scoreboard, this was so robotic and shallow. There is no system to where we can quantify love in a relationship, that is why love is magic. The book started off strong and I did have some insights that felt relatable to me but the bad takes were too strong for my persuasion to carry out into the real world.
emotional informative reflective medium-paced
informative inspiring medium-paced

Gives insights on how to behave and what to expect from the other sex, but it is a bit old fashion and i think it is not applicable for nowadays relationships and interactions (?)
challenging fast-paced
slow-paced

I thought this read would be a bit of a joke (I only read it because it was on Rory Gilmore's book list:) but... what can I say it was fabulous and I'm glad I read it.

This book was terrible; I bought it with the best intentions, hoping it would shed light on the different ways men and women think, etc, in hopes of building better relationships, but it was nothing but an excuse book for men and any inappropriate or immature behavior. Basically, it talks about a man and his need for a "cave" and how when the man is in his cave (cave is figurative as well as literal, where it could mean the man basically checks out from his family, doesn't speak to anyone, is in a bad mood, etc and everyone just has to "deal with it"), he should not be bothered at all or put on a time limit to come out of it, he will come out of it on his own time, etc. Can you imagine if a woman did this??? If a woman decided to shirk her family responsibilities, treat everyone like they dislike them, and go into a shell for days on end, they would be labeled as a psycho and a lazy wench, and be totally crucified----there would be no "she just needs her cave" philosophy/attitude towards her. I am all for relationships be give and take, but this book made it sound like the woman should always give and just let the man take, "and that's how a relationship ends up working". Total garbage.
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2.0

big no !!!