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I forgot I read this! This is a classic, and probably a good that everyone in a relationship would benefit from reading. The Gottman institute is a leader in the field of marriage study, and this is the guy you hear about who can predict if a relationship will last after listening to couples interact for just a few minutes. It was really interesting to read about all the small things that help sustain long term relationships--including things you probably do that don't realize you're doing. Things like making small concessions to signal the end of a conflict, or using conciliatory techniques that probably come pretty naturally to people (people who like their partners I guess!) ONe thing I noticed which made me laugh a little--a few of the 7 habits seem to be specifically for men, or pitched to cis men. Habits like Accepting influence, Solving solvable problems, Overcoming gridlock---all seemed to be habits that Gottman seemed to be pitching either directly or indirectly, to cis men. At one part I was like--is this book for cis women?.....because so many of the tips seemed to be about men being stubborn or dismissive or oblivious bone heads. This may be my bias peeking through...haha....maybe other people would have different perspectives.
BUT--on that topic, this book should probably be updated to include less heteronormativity, and to be inclusive of variant sex and gender identities. It's pretty mired in a binaristic perspective, and as such is maybe a little reductionist. If you can overlook that, it's a great book.
BUT--on that topic, this book should probably be updated to include less heteronormativity, and to be inclusive of variant sex and gender identities. It's pretty mired in a binaristic perspective, and as such is maybe a little reductionist. If you can overlook that, it's a great book.
We found this book really useful even before we got married. I highly recommend it for any couples that would like to improve their communication
This book rocks. I heartily recommend this to anyone. I don't care if you are in a romantic relationship or not, this will help you develop communication skills for a variety of situations you will inevitably face with friends/family/partners.
My husband and I listened to the audiobook together, and we really enjoyed it. There are so many things we took away, especially noticing the 4 horsemen. It's helped make our arguments not focused, and we are more mindful about what we say and do. I think this is an excellent book for making your marriage stronger.
I found this book to be incredibly wise. Great for couples therapists to reference as well. My favorite concepts were the "gentle start up" and "turn towards each other rather than away."
hopeful
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Wonderful book for everyone!
inspiring
reflective
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A lot more old fashioned than I was expecting for something that is so widely regarded and recommended. The early parts about emotional connection and having friendship at the foundation of your marriage were really helpful and inspiring. Lost me at the inability to talk about gender differences with any kind of nuance—he chalks it up to biological determinants and glosses over anything that might complicate this (which then puts the burden of almost everything back on women). No even basic recognition of same sex marriages.
So good. I'm still only 87% done but time is up. I need to buy this.
Meh. Interesting topics, maybe something to re-read at a more stressful time.
challenging
hopeful
informative
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