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4.33 AVERAGE
4.33 AVERAGE
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I wish more time was spent talking about what ACTUALLY to do if you’re experiencing attachment anxiety. I feel like a lot felt hypothetical or the same. There was good grounded advice near the end but 90% of the book is just explaining polyamory and attachment anxiety which was not the most helpful. carry on 🫡
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Great book. Not the right time for me. Might return to later.
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I HIGHLY recommend this book for everyone, even monogamous people. It does an amazing job at explaining the concepts, it helped me do a MAJOR overhaul of how I relate to romance and relationships, and it's the first place where I've seen attachment theory explored in the context of a community, rather than just between individuals. It has specific, clear, actionable advice for different attachment styles and for how to improve relationships with your partners and yourself. 6/5.
I knew I needed to read this book and that I was going to learn something valuable from it. But the first half is so unbearably dry. I checked this out at least 4 times before I was able to make it past 30%. Lately my tolerance for a book that feels like this much work is abysmally low. But I had a feeling this would ultimately be worth it. One issue for me was that this book is geared towards people brand new to ethical non-monogamy and attachment theories. The advanced content (the actual application of concepts) doesn’t arrive until the final third. Also I wanted this to be more personal, it reads too much like a textbook for my tastes. But the actual meat of the book is substantial and it gave me some sharp insight into healthy and productive conversations to have in my relationships and ways to manage my own attachment style.
struggled with this. perhaps i wasn't in the right headspace, but I don't really see why we need all this convoluted language to describe what should be essentially simple concepts: quality time, being honest, connecting? I found the practical advice/ideas in the end to be the most useful section, but the rest felt pretty basic and repetitive. perhaps i'm not the target audience for this one, seeing as I'm skeptical of how useful attachment theory is in general...
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3 stars
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