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nina_zenikwaffle's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
Very good informative book. I will admit took me a long time to read due to a busy schedule, but I thought it was well written. Enjoyed all the self practices and times for personal reflection. Examples used in book really helped illuminate how important understanding attachment theory is. Good read.
hinoki's review against another edition
challenging
informative
medium-paced
3.0
They sort of lost me when they said setting boundaries is bad and co-dependence is good. Especially when they gave examples of people setting boundaries and presented that as a positive anyway. Also the last section of the book was clearly filler.
I still think the book has value because I see their description of a secure partner as healthy and aspirational.
I still think the book has value because I see their description of a secure partner as healthy and aspirational.
rainonmetsunami's review against another edition
4.0
interesting! makes me want to read more non fiction books!
katiacarlo's review against another edition
3.0
Honestly there was a lot to gain from this book, and I can’t deny that I learned a lot. However, I found myself going back and forth looking for any advice on anxious-anxious relationships (AKA two anxiously attached people in a couple) and I couldn’t believe that there was absolutely nothing on this particular match! If I missed something, I would love for someone to point it out, but I went through the chapters and searched for key words with my reading app (not to mention, I read the whole book). I am shocked that the book didn’t touch on this whatsoever. The anxious chapter focused on the fact that anxious people should seek secures and NOT avoidants, but said nothing about two anxious people being together. In a way, if almost feels like the authors purposefully avoided this hypothetical scenario as well. There were no anecdotes from avoidant-avoidant and anxious-anxious couples, but the former was mentioned to be rare as a disclaimer. The lack of advice for anxious-anxious relationships was strange and unsettling because nearly every other match was discussed. It felt like there was a huge gap in this book that was intentionally overlooked. I also don’t recall mental illness being mentioned in-depth or the impact this might have on attachment styles or the ability to connect in certain ways. I also wasn’t a huge fan of how black-and-white the recommendations of this book were. Suggesting that it is nearly impossible for people with certain attachment styles to be together is very rigid advice with little room for flexibility. Perhaps it’s true, and I agree with it to some extent, but there is little room for contemplation.
shamon's review against another edition
3.0
DNF - it was alright but also exhausting at the same time. I suppose it might be okay reading in a lay-person sense but I can also see a bit of harm in this.
debgirl522's review against another edition
5.0
Eye opening to see how I can communicate more effectively
nicolecaprice53's review against another edition
4.5
This book was recommended by a dear friend, and it honestly changed my life. I learned so much about my avoidant attachment style and how to become more secure.