Reviews - How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

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How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Nicole LePera

3.77 AVERAGE

frrstbrwn's review

4.25

challenging informative inspiring fast-paced

angiesafko's review

4.0

emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

As someone who enjoys Dr. LePera's content, worldview, and general approach to relationships, I really enjoyed her book. While emotional and informative, the content was science backed.

I'm truly astounded at how interconnected our body is and how our nervous systems impact our immediate and distant environments. While the book was repetitive at times, I think it showcased the need to be consistent in the work towards repairing one's nervous system- which ultimately repairs how we show up in the world. Furthermore, the mind and body consciousness check-ins are a vital tool which I've begun to use in my daily life.

lilijeee's review

3.0

informative slow-paced

rachaeeelod's review

2.0

There are some really great points in here, but I wish there wasn’t such an attempt to present the reasons behind them as scientific. She takes observations on things like interconnectedness and the impacts of people’s behaviour, emotions, and perceived energy on others - which are interesting and meaningful - and then articulates hypotheses about why that might be as fact, rather than opinion. She presents spiritual ideas and concepts, which can be extremely helpful to people. I just wish they were presented as her spirituality, rather than as coming from her education as a psychologist with a PHD. I’m not saying that there was nothing scientifically backed up in this book, but rather that the divergence of science and opinion should have been clear, and I don’t think that’s unreasonable to expect from an author who prints her title of Dr. on the cover of her book. I believe many of the ideas in this book can be really helpful to people as beliefs, tools for visualisation and psychological exercises. I listened to the audiobook and it was well narrated.
I find much of Dr. Nicole’s work to be extremely helpful in understanding my emotions, learned behaviours and as a general background to my own brain and thought processes, as well as where they might be coming from. As a secular thinker, I can also take plenty of her spiritual beliefs and use them as tools to visualise things that are otherwise quite intangible, as “we know this thing exists, here are some ideas about why, but we don’t truly understand much of why it occurs yet”. As such I think this and her previous books are extremely helpful to people.

lostwithoutaplan's review

2.5

informative inspiring

2.5 STARS
A peek into the why of relationships and how they recommend you work together to get through. Nothing groundbreaking here - but a good book none-the-less.