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It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
(Not a review just me keeping track ALSO IS KIND OF A SENSELESS RANT)
I have. . Mixed feelings. Part of tgis book was very interesting and the other part just had me skeptical...
Edit:
Alright so the thing about this is that he starts off talking about how we can inherit our parents and even grandparents trauma and explains it in a very scientific way. He also show a few studies done on it and explains how it happens. That all during the first half of the book. He also talks about how when we have a "break" in the bond with our parents (specially our mothers [enfasis on our mothers]) at an early age it affects us greatly, thus affecting out ability to feel emotionaly connected to them or some shit.
And it is all very interesting during this first half.
The second half is all about giving examples. And tbh, those examples kinda felt like the same shit over and over. The part were I have issues with this book is when he states that in order to heal and move on we NEED, we MUST forgive and heal our relationship with our parents. And he also states that we cant bypass that. So he basically shows you how some people have issues that started from their parents and then they learn about their parents trauma and finally heal. Listen... learning about my parents trauma is not always gonna heal what someone went through. And he does states that this is not necesarily the case for everyone. BUT he only mentions that ONCE.
... i lost my train of thought here, I'm sorry...
Anyways, I can see why a lot of people have issues with this book. I've read how many people feel uncomfortable with the authors insistance on that you MUST forgive and heal your relationships with your parents in order to move on. And I agree.
Also, I'm sort of skeptical about the atories he puts were a person replays the trauma or life pattern of an uncle or cousin. That doesnt fully makes sense to me. But I'll just pass that.
What ever the case the first part of the book was interesting and you shouldn't feel forced to heal the relationship with your parents if you are not comfortable with that.
I have. . Mixed feelings. Part of tgis book was very interesting and the other part just had me skeptical...
Edit:
Alright so the thing about this is that he starts off talking about how we can inherit our parents and even grandparents trauma and explains it in a very scientific way. He also show a few studies done on it and explains how it happens. That all during the first half of the book. He also talks about how when we have a "break" in the bond with our parents (specially our mothers [enfasis on our mothers]) at an early age it affects us greatly, thus affecting out ability to feel emotionaly connected to them or some shit.
And it is all very interesting during this first half.
The second half is all about giving examples. And tbh, those examples kinda felt like the same shit over and over. The part were I have issues with this book is when he states that in order to heal and move on we NEED, we MUST forgive and heal our relationship with our parents. And he also states that we cant bypass that. So he basically shows you how some people have issues that started from their parents and then they learn about their parents trauma and finally heal. Listen... learning about my parents trauma is not always gonna heal what someone went through. And he does states that this is not necesarily the case for everyone. BUT he only mentions that ONCE.
... i lost my train of thought here, I'm sorry...
Anyways, I can see why a lot of people have issues with this book. I've read how many people feel uncomfortable with the authors insistance on that you MUST forgive and heal your relationships with your parents in order to move on. And I agree.
Also, I'm sort of skeptical about the atories he puts were a person replays the trauma or life pattern of an uncle or cousin. That doesnt fully makes sense to me. But I'll just pass that.
What ever the case the first part of the book was interesting and you shouldn't feel forced to heal the relationship with your parents if you are not comfortable with that.
(Not a review just me keeping track)
I know a lot of people say this book is actually scary but I didnt find it too scary. However, I'm sure that is cause I've seen the movie so many times. Although there are some real changes between movie and book. Anyways I really liked it and it was very well written. The fact that i four starred it has more to do with me than the book.
I know a lot of people say this book is actually scary but I didnt find it too scary. However, I'm sure that is cause I've seen the movie so many times. Although there are some real changes between movie and book. Anyways I really liked it and it was very well written. The fact that i four starred it has more to do with me than the book.
(Not a review just me keeping track)
It tooks me a few weeks to get through this book. Sin embargo, it was good. My only issue was the the point has been made about 100 pages before the end. Yet the book was not finished.
Anyways, it has some great points and it gives clear examples that prove them.
It tooks me a few weeks to get through this book. Sin embargo, it was good. My only issue was the the point has been made about 100 pages before the end. Yet the book was not finished.
Anyways, it has some great points and it gives clear examples that prove them.
(Not a review just me keeping track)
I was not planning on giving this 5 stars, I'll be honest. From the teenagery in the book, to my issue with Charlie suddenly making Brian her whole like it was about four stars to me. Which is not bad honestly. But as the book kept going it just kept winning my damn ass. Brian is wholesome af. Amelia is honestly a good friend and the way they talked things out and worked to fix the issue. And then working to fixing the issue with Brian. And then accepting that it was her job to work with her own insecurities. The bit of progress made with the mother. Yes. This book has good developement. I loved it.
I was not planning on giving this 5 stars, I'll be honest. From the teenagery in the book, to my issue with Charlie suddenly making Brian her whole like it was about four stars to me. Which is not bad honestly. But as the book kept going it just kept winning my damn ass. Brian is wholesome af. Amelia is honestly a good friend and the way they talked things out and worked to fix the issue. And then working to fixing the issue with Brian. And then accepting that it was her job to work with her own insecurities. The bit of progress made with the mother. Yes. This book has good developement. I loved it.
Not a review just me keeping track
DNF
Tbh, i had a hard time feeling motivated to read this. Besides that i also had some situations with left me with no time to sit with the book and shit. So my time ran out and i wasnt going to finish on time. I only manage to get halfway.
The story could be beautiful, however, the way it was narrated didnt make me care much about it, there were also some stuff added that just felt unnesesary.
DNF
Tbh, i had a hard time feeling motivated to read this. Besides that i also had some situations with left me with no time to sit with the book and shit. So my time ran out and i wasnt going to finish on time. I only manage to get halfway.
The story could be beautiful, however, the way it was narrated didnt make me care much about it, there were also some stuff added that just felt unnesesary.
(Not a review just me keeping track)
I was't going to give this 5 starts at first but after that ending it is needed. The reason for that is that the book to me felt a bit longer than it actually was.
Anyways, i did not understand CRAP of the decks layout or the science but everything else seemed to kind of make up for it...?
The ending though a bit obvious was so well written and so fitting that I loved it.
Also, Giselle has my heart.
I was't going to give this 5 starts at first but after that ending it is needed. The reason for that is that the book to me felt a bit longer than it actually was.
Anyways, i did not understand CRAP of the decks layout or the science but everything else seemed to kind of make up for it...?
The ending though a bit obvious was so well written and so fitting that I loved it.
Also, Giselle has my heart.
(Not a review just me keeping trsck)
This book was... cool. It sort of started good and got my attention and slowly just went to just be okay.
This book was... cool. It sort of started good and got my attention and slowly just went to just be okay.
Not a review just me keeping track
This book was my blind date with a book. I have feelings about it but not too much. It is sweet and easy to read but it doesn't go too deep on the things the author mentions.
It start by talking about peace and the people who commit mass shooting but then it rarely touches the topic again... and it makes it seem like the type of people it looks to reach are the people who hold hatred and anger. But let's be honest, a person who is thinking about killing others wont be swayed by this book and would not look to read this type of books.
Anyways, all in all it felt to me more like a random rant... not a pissed of rant but a love rant.
There were a few things in there that I was like "???" I did, however, like his take on anger.
Other than that the book was nice
This book was my blind date with a book. I have feelings about it but not too much. It is sweet and easy to read but it doesn't go too deep on the things the author mentions.
It start by talking about peace and the people who commit mass shooting but then it rarely touches the topic again... and it makes it seem like the type of people it looks to reach are the people who hold hatred and anger. But let's be honest, a person who is thinking about killing others wont be swayed by this book and would not look to read this type of books.
Anyways, all in all it felt to me more like a random rant... not a pissed of rant but a love rant.
There were a few things in there that I was like "???" I did, however, like his take on anger.
Other than that the book was nice