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emcat01's review
fast-paced
2.0
This book was recommended to me but I didn't really like it. There are a few good take aways but I don't like the assumption that all of us are unhappy and miserable. I also am fearful of dying and the CONSTANT reminder of I'm going to die is off putting. Of course I'm aware of this thought but my fear should not be my motivating factor. I much prefer Jen Sincero's self help books. This book felt somewhat accusatory at times and put a bad taste in my mouth. I did enjoy the narrator's voice on the Audible production but this is yet another dud of an audible credit. I understand this was a tough love style approach but I don't like it. I would not recommend it.
missyjohnson's review against another edition
2.0
meh, takes just over an hour to read. Nothing new in it. only a few quotes and chapter 5 worth contemplating. quotes: " You don't have to feel like today is your day; you just have to act like it is." and one from Aristotle - "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." and finally by the author - Expect nothing, Accept everything. a reminder to live in the moment.
imogenreads7's review against another edition
2.0
Id give this book a solid ⭐️⭐️ and a half out of ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
The whole book is a man shouting at you about how your circumstances are all your fault and “you just need to have good habits and exercise and say these 7 affirmations every day and you’ll be good to go” . I feel like this is such a privileged blanket statement to make and it’s just not true, that’s just not real life, we don’t have to pretend it is. Real life doesn’t always look like that. It’s so surface level and just screams privilege, lack of empathy, little experience with real life pain and difficulties. I’m not saying we don’t control our emotions or reactions and I’m not saying that our thoughts don’t become our reality TO A CERTAIN EXTENT but that’s not the whole picture, and this book just displays the author’s lack of human experience so much - this is some toxic positivity shouty aggressive privileged male bullsh*t tbh.
He just added a swear word in the title to make everything sound edgy and made every second word a swear word to make it seem more serious but all he accomplished there was making his readers, or at least me, feel screamed at.
If I’m being completely honest and blunt, it’s basically just a privileged white man shouting at you about how everything is your fault and you can change every bad situation in your life. Its not a book that takes real life circumstances, mental illness, chronic illness, trauma, poverty, etc into consideration (not that all of those apply to me, although some do, but just in general). All I feel is that I’ve been screamed at by a privileged male telling me my life situations are all my fault and I have the power to change it. I’m not a fan.
Anyways. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
thelostb00kmark's review against another edition
2.0
Very self-helpy. Nothing exceptionally memorable about the methods or ideas.
fbroom's review
5.0
Very short book to the point. Cheesy title, sure but everyone at some point of their life need a little kick to get moving. I listened to this book early in January because I’ve noticed that I was slacking in general. There was even a job I was interested in applying to but never did the work for prepare for the interview. I was slacking and I knew it. I knew I needed a little kick. So I started listeninng to this to remind myself that I’m blocking myself from moving on. I just needed to work a little harder.
Some notes:
Chapter 2: I’m willing
No buts, if you try to defend where you’re are right now, then you’ve chosen it. Stop blaming yourself or anywhere. Stop the blame game and start something. No one can make you be willing, you need to do it. Everytime you say “I’m willing but” you need to stop. The “but” is a huge issue. Recognize and catch yourself everytime you say “I want to do this but”. Willingness doesn’t come with buts.
Chapter 3: I’m wired to win
Every when you’re losing, you’re winning how? Suppose you’re stuck in failed relationships one after the other, maybe you’re just winning at losing. Maybe, you’re stuck in a cycle. You are hard wired to win. Maybe the issue is in choosing what you’re winning at? right??? Maybe you’re choosing wrong. Maybe you’re winning at being lazy, maybe you’re trying to prove that you’re lazy, right?
Chapter 4: I got this
Negative experiences spread quickly. One negative aspect can ruin many aspects of your life at once. Take a minute to remember what’ve you’ve overcome so far in yourself. Put things in perspective. Think of all the problems you’ve faced before and how you overcome them.
Chapter 5: I embrace the uncertainty
We crave stability. We crave certainty. Uncertainty is hard but the catch is is … opportunities come with uncertainty. If you want to change things, it will involve risking something, it will involve uncertainty. It’s a hard thing on our brain but it is the only way to get out of things.
Chapter 6: I’m not my thoughts: I’m what I do.
Distracted at work. Wasting time. Looking at notifications one after the other. Todo list becomes a not todo list. So distracted. Plus the thoughts of not being worthy of anything and thoughts of being a loser etc.
You can’t wait for the right mood to come. You need to ACT ANYWAY. Recognize the pattern. “You change your life by doing not by thinking of doing”. These thoughts of unworthiness don’t affect your reality. Your reality is defined by your actions. Thoughts like doubt, fear etc will be there.
You can get better being the zone by always acting regardless of these thoughts and feelings. Put your thoughts aside and act. “Action may not bring happiness but happiness doesn’t happen without action”. “You are not your thoughts. You are what you do.
Chapter 7: I’m Relentless.
Change is uncomfortable. Think to the last time you’ve accomplished something you’re proud off. You know that you weren’t just sitting the couch while working on that accomplishment. You know you were uncomfortable. You know you doubted yourself millions of times everyday. Everyone around you probably doubted you and advised you to stop. Being relentless is about being focused on the problem and fixing it. It’s okay to get discouraged but it’s not okay to stop. Relentless has one direction which is moving forward and never giving up.
Some notes:
Chapter 2: I’m willing
No buts, if you try to defend where you’re are right now, then you’ve chosen it. Stop blaming yourself or anywhere. Stop the blame game and start something. No one can make you be willing, you need to do it. Everytime you say “I’m willing but” you need to stop. The “but” is a huge issue. Recognize and catch yourself everytime you say “I want to do this but”. Willingness doesn’t come with buts.
Chapter 3: I’m wired to win
Every when you’re losing, you’re winning how? Suppose you’re stuck in failed relationships one after the other, maybe you’re just winning at losing. Maybe, you’re stuck in a cycle. You are hard wired to win. Maybe the issue is in choosing what you’re winning at? right??? Maybe you’re choosing wrong. Maybe you’re winning at being lazy, maybe you’re trying to prove that you’re lazy, right?
Chapter 4: I got this
Negative experiences spread quickly. One negative aspect can ruin many aspects of your life at once. Take a minute to remember what’ve you’ve overcome so far in yourself. Put things in perspective. Think of all the problems you’ve faced before and how you overcome them.
Chapter 5: I embrace the uncertainty
We crave stability. We crave certainty. Uncertainty is hard but the catch is is … opportunities come with uncertainty. If you want to change things, it will involve risking something, it will involve uncertainty. It’s a hard thing on our brain but it is the only way to get out of things.
Chapter 6: I’m not my thoughts: I’m what I do.
Distracted at work. Wasting time. Looking at notifications one after the other. Todo list becomes a not todo list. So distracted. Plus the thoughts of not being worthy of anything and thoughts of being a loser etc.
You can’t wait for the right mood to come. You need to ACT ANYWAY. Recognize the pattern. “You change your life by doing not by thinking of doing”. These thoughts of unworthiness don’t affect your reality. Your reality is defined by your actions. Thoughts like doubt, fear etc will be there.
You can get better being the zone by always acting regardless of these thoughts and feelings. Put your thoughts aside and act. “Action may not bring happiness but happiness doesn’t happen without action”. “You are not your thoughts. You are what you do.
Chapter 7: I’m Relentless.
Change is uncomfortable. Think to the last time you’ve accomplished something you’re proud off. You know that you weren’t just sitting the couch while working on that accomplishment. You know you were uncomfortable. You know you doubted yourself millions of times everyday. Everyone around you probably doubted you and advised you to stop. Being relentless is about being focused on the problem and fixing it. It’s okay to get discouraged but it’s not okay to stop. Relentless has one direction which is moving forward and never giving up.