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Dieser Schmerz ist nicht meiner: Wie wir uns mit dem seelischen Erbe unserer Familie aussöhnen by Mark Wolynn
8 reviews
alexirt's review against another edition
Moderate: Injury/Injury detail, Genocide, Death, Forced institutionalization, and Toxic relationship
Victim blamingglassdanse's review against another edition
the name rachel yehuda rang some bells, and I think it was because I had read something on a 2015 study she did. it looked at approx 30 holocaust survivors, and approx 20 post-war descendants. you do not need to be a statistical wizard to understand that to make large scale claims off of such a tiny study is a major flaw of any study, to say nothing of how epigenetic changes across generations should not be studied in parent / child sets so even the methodology has cause for concern. I believe this study only looked at a small number of genes too, further adding to the statistical muddiness. epigenetic trauma proponents also fail to explain the actual mechanisms such a process would use or how this all fits into the current understanding
I mention so much since the scientific hypothesis of this book seems to hinge so much of itself on yehuda's work, although it fails to mention any of the criticisms laid against her work, nor does it offer any alternative view points.
plus, this study does not work to separate out the influence of family or cultural stories, and experiences, or other health conditions. that's just sloppy. sister studies (by other scientists) come with similar problems.
there were other serious problems in the few pages I read, but this was the most glaring.
Graphic: Self harm, Suicide attempt, Genocide, and Suicidal thoughts
katharina90's review against another edition
2.5
Some bits resonated and rang true for me. At other times I found the conclusions far-fetched or too simplistic, and the suggestions unhelpful.
While I believe in inherited family trauma, the ways in which trauma has been carried down in my family doesn't line up neatly with what's described in this book.
The author pushes repeatedly for a repair of strained/broken child-parent relationships which I don't think is always possible or helpful. It may even result in further harm if the parent isn't able or willing to address their own trauma and be accountable for the harm they themselves have caused.
However, if we interpret healing as finding peace and acceptance independent of our interpersonal relationship with our parent, I think there is a lot of value to be found.
Interrupting the cycle of trauma by healing yourself, accepting your parents' limitations, and adjusting your expectations and boundaries accordingly seems like a healthy path forward.
A guiding question that stood out to me in that context is:
"Can you stay open in your body when you think of them?"
Another takeaway was to use lessons learned to help break the cycle: "Can you receive something good from what they gave you?" A parent's cruelty could become the reason for your kindess.
Moderate: Death, Genocide, Mental illness, Child death, and Suicidal thoughts
lydiagraceg's review against another edition
4.5
Moderate: Child abuse, Genocide, Murder, War, and Emotional abuse
thereaderfriend's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Genocide
Minor: Addiction, Chronic illness, and Death
bluejayreads's review against another edition
4.5
Minor: Genocide, Child abuse, Child death, Death of parent, Death, Addiction, Chronic illness, and Suicidal thoughts
lookingforwonder's review against another edition
2.5
Minor: Genocide, Addiction, Alcoholism, Antisemitism, Chronic illness, Death, Death of parent, Grief, Mental illness, and Suicidal thoughts
maayanush's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Genocide