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This book was really one emotional journey. Through the stories about her patients Lori shows not only the way how theraphy works, but reveals to us the world of pain, the world of regret, the world of grief, but also the way to open yourself to the good things, the way to find love and hope and the way that there is always a way out of the situation you're in. Personally I have no experiences in the field, but seeing the way it works, makes me wonder - maybe we should all talk to someone? It sure can do no harm to anyone. ⠀
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''You can’t tell people what to be, I’m afraid,” said Rosie. “You can only love and support who they already are.”
ENG - I fell in love with this book. Truly, madly, deeply. Long time since I read a book so realistic, but at the same time so touching. All stars to this one!
HR - Ovo nije knjiga o odgoju. A opet, je. Ovo nije autobiografija, a opet ima autobiografskih elemenata. Priča je ovo o jednoj posebnoj obitelji, koja ima posebnog najmlađeg člana – dječaka koji je već sa tri godine poželio biti djevojčica kada odraste, a sa pet godina odlučio početi nositi haljine. Sama priča napisana je vrlo realistično, sa tako dobro prikazanim dvojbama kroz koje prolaze roditelji tog djeteta, da me nije iznenadilo kada sam pročitala da i sama autorica prolazi kroz isti proces sa svojim sinom. To jest, sa svojom kćeri.
Teško da bi itko bez svega proživljenog na svojoj koži mogao napisati tako dirljivu, a opet tako realističnu priču. Priču o neobičnom usred običnog. Priču o nečemu što je žuto u crno bijelom svijetu. Priču o pripadanju i nepripadanju istovremeno. Priču o roditeljstvu u moderno doba, kada je sve što želiš biti stup potpore svom djetetu, podržati ga u svakome pogledu, no istovremeno si svjestan da je izvan vaša četiri zida jedna potpuno druga priča?
”If an eyeball sticker was creative self-expression, surely Claude should wear what he wanted to school. How could you say yes to webbed feet but no to a dress, yes to being who you were but no to dressing likne him? How did you teach your small human that it’s what’s inside that counts when the truth was everyone was pretty preoccupied with what you put on over the outside too?”.
Divni su mi prikazi dvojbi roditelja, razmišljanja o tome kako da se izbore za svoje dijete, da mu osiguraju mogućnost da odraste u osobu koja je sigurna u sebe i koja se ne koleba u svojim izborima. No istovremeno, birajući njegove bitke mijenjaju život cijele svoje velike obitelji.
“This is how it always is. You have to make these huge decision on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands. Who trusts you to know what’s good and right and then to be able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don’t get to see the future. And if you screw up – if with your incomplete contradictory information you make the wrong call – nothing less than your child’s entire future and happiness is at stake. It’s impossible. It’s heartbreaking. It’s maddening. But there’s no alternative.”
Preporučam ovu knjigu svakom čovjeku. Roditelju, ne-roditelju, muškom, ženskom, starijem a posebno mlađem naraštaju...Vjerujte mi na riječ, ovo je knjiga u koju ćete se zaljubiti. Zaljubiti se u ovu veliku disfunkcionalnu obitelj, zaljubiti se u roditelje koji čine greške, iako u najboljoj namjeri, a prije svega u Poppy. Iskričavu, vrckastu, bezbrižnu i veselu Poppy .
Odrasli smo u svijetu gdje je biti drugačiji još uvijek nešto loše. Gdje se ljudi boje različitosti. A zar je zaista na kraju dana bitno, da li je netko muško ili žensko? Da li dječak hoda u haljinama ili cura u hoodicama? Da li voli muškarce ili djevojke? Zar ćemo okrenuti leđa nekome samo zato jer se ne uklapa u naše sterotipe? Budimo tu jedni za druge, budimo otvoreni...tko zna, možda nas upravo iza nečeg drugačijeg čeka nešto nevjerojatno lijepo.
“This is a medical issue, but mostly it’s a cultural issue. It’s a social issue and an emotional issue and a family dynamic issue and a community issue. Maybe we need to medically intervene so Poppy doesn’t grow a beard. Or maybe the world needs to learn to love a person with a beard who goes by ‘she’ and wears a skirt.”/i
ENG - I fell in love with this book. Truly, madly, deeply. Long time since I read a book so realistic, but at the same time so touching. All stars to this one!
HR - Ovo nije knjiga o odgoju. A opet, je. Ovo nije autobiografija, a opet ima autobiografskih elemenata. Priča je ovo o jednoj posebnoj obitelji, koja ima posebnog najmlađeg člana – dječaka koji je već sa tri godine poželio biti djevojčica kada odraste, a sa pet godina odlučio početi nositi haljine. Sama priča napisana je vrlo realistično, sa tako dobro prikazanim dvojbama kroz koje prolaze roditelji tog djeteta, da me nije iznenadilo kada sam pročitala da i sama autorica prolazi kroz isti proces sa svojim sinom. To jest, sa svojom kćeri.
Teško da bi itko bez svega proživljenog na svojoj koži mogao napisati tako dirljivu, a opet tako realističnu priču. Priču o neobičnom usred običnog. Priču o nečemu što je žuto u crno bijelom svijetu. Priču o pripadanju i nepripadanju istovremeno. Priču o roditeljstvu u moderno doba, kada je sve što želiš biti stup potpore svom djetetu, podržati ga u svakome pogledu, no istovremeno si svjestan da je izvan vaša četiri zida jedna potpuno druga priča?
”If an eyeball sticker was creative self-expression, surely Claude should wear what he wanted to school. How could you say yes to webbed feet but no to a dress, yes to being who you were but no to dressing likne him? How did you teach your small human that it’s what’s inside that counts when the truth was everyone was pretty preoccupied with what you put on over the outside too?”.
Divni su mi prikazi dvojbi roditelja, razmišljanja o tome kako da se izbore za svoje dijete, da mu osiguraju mogućnost da odraste u osobu koja je sigurna u sebe i koja se ne koleba u svojim izborima. No istovremeno, birajući njegove bitke mijenjaju život cijele svoje velike obitelji.
“This is how it always is. You have to make these huge decision on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands. Who trusts you to know what’s good and right and then to be able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don’t get to see the future. And if you screw up – if with your incomplete contradictory information you make the wrong call – nothing less than your child’s entire future and happiness is at stake. It’s impossible. It’s heartbreaking. It’s maddening. But there’s no alternative.”
Preporučam ovu knjigu svakom čovjeku. Roditelju, ne-roditelju, muškom, ženskom, starijem a posebno mlađem naraštaju...Vjerujte mi na riječ, ovo je knjiga u koju ćete se zaljubiti. Zaljubiti se u ovu veliku disfunkcionalnu obitelj, zaljubiti se u roditelje koji čine greške, iako u najboljoj namjeri, a prije svega u Poppy. Iskričavu, vrckastu, bezbrižnu i veselu Poppy .
Odrasli smo u svijetu gdje je biti drugačiji još uvijek nešto loše. Gdje se ljudi boje različitosti. A zar je zaista na kraju dana bitno, da li je netko muško ili žensko? Da li dječak hoda u haljinama ili cura u hoodicama? Da li voli muškarce ili djevojke? Zar ćemo okrenuti leđa nekome samo zato jer se ne uklapa u naše sterotipe? Budimo tu jedni za druge, budimo otvoreni...tko zna, možda nas upravo iza nečeg drugačijeg čeka nešto nevjerojatno lijepo.
“This is a medical issue, but mostly it’s a cultural issue. It’s a social issue and an emotional issue and a family dynamic issue and a community issue. Maybe we need to medically intervene so Poppy doesn’t grow a beard. Or maybe the world needs to learn to love a person with a beard who goes by ‘she’ and wears a skirt.”/i
3.5/5
To be honest, if it wasn't for my book club, I would have never read this book. Never ever, because I have never thought of reading S.King and because I thought it was scary. But let me tell you, its not scary at all. For me, personally, it was more an extremely uncomfortable and claustrophobic read. Because I felt sorry for Carrie. Sorry for the way she was raised (religeous fanaticism), sorry for the way she was bullied in school, sorry for an unfortunate turn of the events and kids stupidity. And it felt uncomfortable because it sometimes hurts so much when I see how cruel and toxic kids can be. I think its our assignment as parents to prevent that. To teach them better. To teach them respect and how to treasure and not undermine people differences. Cause in the end, we're all the same, and, as this book shows, you can never know what lies inside
To be honest, if it wasn't for my book club, I would have never read this book. Never ever, because I have never thought of reading S.King and because I thought it was scary. But let me tell you, its not scary at all. For me, personally, it was more an extremely uncomfortable and claustrophobic read. Because I felt sorry for Carrie. Sorry for the way she was raised (religeous fanaticism), sorry for the way she was bullied in school, sorry for an unfortunate turn of the events and kids stupidity. And it felt uncomfortable because it sometimes hurts so much when I see how cruel and toxic kids can be. I think its our assignment as parents to prevent that. To teach them better. To teach them respect and how to treasure and not undermine people differences. Cause in the end, we're all the same, and, as this book shows, you can never know what lies inside
If I have read this book three years ago, I'd give it a 5 star rating in an instant! But, having read all sorts of different reads and going through different genres every month due to my book club and my #bookstagram friends, my mind seems to have developed some weird sense of tolerance. So, I kinda expected more of this one. Not that it wasnt weird and creepy, and totally out there..it was. But my twisted mind expected it to be even more so.
That being said, I did love this book. It has sex, a lot of it, it has a good story, and as any other CoHo book, you will devour it in a day, because the tension she creates and the way she writes are just unbelieavable.
Since it was the authors first attempt in the dark romance/suspense, I applaud it as a great start. And I hope she will continue in this genre and she wont be afraid to go even darker, even deeper. We want it and we can handle it!
That being said, I did love this book. It has sex, a lot of it, it has a good story, and as any other CoHo book, you will devour it in a day, because the tension she creates and the way she writes are just unbelieavable.
Since it was the authors first attempt in the dark romance/suspense, I applaud it as a great start. And I hope she will continue in this genre and she wont be afraid to go even darker, even deeper. We want it and we can handle it!
This book was the first true crime thriller I have read in a very long time. Usually I tend to gravitate to thrillers or mystery, but the synopsis of this one sounded really intriguing so I had to request for it. ⠀
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And the truth be told, it is a good read. It's not mind blowing, it is pretty real in some parts, and the premise is indeed an interesting one. But I wished the main character is a little more likable, because some of her acts were just plain stupid. I cant say what my own reactions to the similar situation would be, but I think they would definitely not be as aggressive as hers. If you are a crime or a thriller fan,you might like it, even though the twists and the ending were quite predictable. ⠀
Big thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for a free ARC in exchange for my honest review.
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And the truth be told, it is a good read. It's not mind blowing, it is pretty real in some parts, and the premise is indeed an interesting one. But I wished the main character is a little more likable, because some of her acts were just plain stupid. I cant say what my own reactions to the similar situation would be, but I think they would definitely not be as aggressive as hers. If you are a crime or a thriller fan,you might like it, even though the twists and the ending were quite predictable. ⠀
Big thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for a free ARC in exchange for my honest review.
DNF
I'm sorry. No, I'm not sorry. I tried. I tried reading it, I tried listening to it. Maybe Mexican Gothic runed it for me. Maybe I am not the right audience for this book. Maybe the book is just not good. Who can tell?⠀
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I got to 30% and just couldnt do it anymore. Nothing is happening. All is weird and suspensful and the narrator talks in the husky voice that tries to be mysterious but kinda fails and sounds more like a lost call girl. Witches in the woods, weird cult, pure girl...yeah, yeah, all is there. But I have the feeling its all about running through the woods in the dark and hearing voices. And lesbian lovers. I have had enough of hearing voices in Mexican Gothic and if all of the witchy and gothic books tend to be this way, I think I will start hearing voices myself. I know that I decided this month will be all about new experiences, but torture is not one of them. So yeah, I'm out on this one. Or maybe I need some mushrooms?
I'm sorry. No, I'm not sorry. I tried. I tried reading it, I tried listening to it. Maybe Mexican Gothic runed it for me. Maybe I am not the right audience for this book. Maybe the book is just not good. Who can tell?⠀
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I got to 30% and just couldnt do it anymore. Nothing is happening. All is weird and suspensful and the narrator talks in the husky voice that tries to be mysterious but kinda fails and sounds more like a lost call girl. Witches in the woods, weird cult, pure girl...yeah, yeah, all is there. But I have the feeling its all about running through the woods in the dark and hearing voices. And lesbian lovers. I have had enough of hearing voices in Mexican Gothic and if all of the witchy and gothic books tend to be this way, I think I will start hearing voices myself. I know that I decided this month will be all about new experiences, but torture is not one of them. So yeah, I'm out on this one. Or maybe I need some mushrooms?
This is the book you wont really see being read often. And it should be. Because it is dark, it is gut-wrenching, it is brilliant. It has vibes of Where the Crawdads Sing meets Educated with a touch of a Gillian Flynn. ⠀
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The writing is simple yet you will find yourself touched by every sentence. Guess that is the way of the Scandinavian authors, which I get to love and appreciate more each day (thank you Mr.Backman for that). It's a story told through multiple characters, a story about the lengths we would go to keep the ones we love close, and what a deep sadness can do to a person. Because, through all of it, there is just an amazing amount of sadness. But be careful, this is not an easy book. Not at all. You will get suspense, you will get weirdness, you will get family issues and borderline behaviour, and you will get some scenes that will shock you in a bad way, some that might even make you want to gag. But in all of that you will care so much for all of the characters, and even though the things they do are not justified by any means, you will understand their reasons and still feel for them. And I believe, that is a sign of an exceptional writer. That in all the disturbance, in all of the dark and twisted things, in all of her horrendousness, she manages to show us humanity.⠀
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Needless to say I recommend this one to everyone. Ok, not everyone, maybe only the ones with a hard stomach. But I dont have one and I still enjoyed the hell out of it. ⠀
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The writing is simple yet you will find yourself touched by every sentence. Guess that is the way of the Scandinavian authors, which I get to love and appreciate more each day (thank you Mr.Backman for that). It's a story told through multiple characters, a story about the lengths we would go to keep the ones we love close, and what a deep sadness can do to a person. Because, through all of it, there is just an amazing amount of sadness. But be careful, this is not an easy book. Not at all. You will get suspense, you will get weirdness, you will get family issues and borderline behaviour, and you will get some scenes that will shock you in a bad way, some that might even make you want to gag. But in all of that you will care so much for all of the characters, and even though the things they do are not justified by any means, you will understand their reasons and still feel for them. And I believe, that is a sign of an exceptional writer. That in all the disturbance, in all of the dark and twisted things, in all of her horrendousness, she manages to show us humanity.⠀
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Needless to say I recommend this one to everyone. Ok, not everyone, maybe only the ones with a hard stomach. But I dont have one and I still enjoyed the hell out of it. ⠀
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Some books just need to be read, even though it hurts reading them. This is one of these books. ⠀
I went into it blindly, barely knowing what is it about, and it ended up being one of the best historical fiction books I have read this year. ⠀
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This is a story about women. Strong women that survived horrible things. It is also a story about a part of the world's history we dont know much about. Did you know that in 1840s there were boats with convicts sent from England to Australia to serve their sentence there and inhabit the new continent? You might even know that. But did you know there were boats with only women on them? Women who were accused of stealing handkerchiefs, staying pregnant with a wrong person and similar benign crimes and then also sentenced to transport and years of service? And that they got marked as a cattle with a number? That their kids were taken away into the orphanages probably never to meet their mothers again? ⠀
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It was heartbreaking, it was eye opening, it was beautiful. The characters of this book were just victims of being born at the wrong place in the wrong time but they still tried to get the best out of life. And they were so wonderful, I loved them so much! The author did a great job combining the historical facts with the story, it didnt get boring for one second (which usually happens for me if the book gets too serious or too historical). ⠀
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I did want more details on some parts of the story and that was the reason that I thought of giving this book 4.5 stars. But its importance is too big, and I think everybody should read this book and learn from it. Learn how not to let this world to become a mysogenist paradise again, learn how not to let others make decisions instead of us, learn how to respect and cherish other cultures instead of ruining everything that is different. As they say: we have to learn from the history to make the future better. And that is why you need to read The Exiles, even if it will break your heart in pieces.
But thnx to NetGalley and the publisher for giving me a free copy in exchange fornan honest review.
I went into it blindly, barely knowing what is it about, and it ended up being one of the best historical fiction books I have read this year. ⠀
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This is a story about women. Strong women that survived horrible things. It is also a story about a part of the world's history we dont know much about. Did you know that in 1840s there were boats with convicts sent from England to Australia to serve their sentence there and inhabit the new continent? You might even know that. But did you know there were boats with only women on them? Women who were accused of stealing handkerchiefs, staying pregnant with a wrong person and similar benign crimes and then also sentenced to transport and years of service? And that they got marked as a cattle with a number? That their kids were taken away into the orphanages probably never to meet their mothers again? ⠀
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It was heartbreaking, it was eye opening, it was beautiful. The characters of this book were just victims of being born at the wrong place in the wrong time but they still tried to get the best out of life. And they were so wonderful, I loved them so much! The author did a great job combining the historical facts with the story, it didnt get boring for one second (which usually happens for me if the book gets too serious or too historical). ⠀
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I did want more details on some parts of the story and that was the reason that I thought of giving this book 4.5 stars. But its importance is too big, and I think everybody should read this book and learn from it. Learn how not to let this world to become a mysogenist paradise again, learn how not to let others make decisions instead of us, learn how to respect and cherish other cultures instead of ruining everything that is different. As they say: we have to learn from the history to make the future better. And that is why you need to read The Exiles, even if it will break your heart in pieces.
But thnx to NetGalley and the publisher for giving me a free copy in exchange fornan honest review.
3.5/5
I know this might come as an unpopular opinion, but I cant say that I fell head over heels with this book. I loved the cover, I loved the premise, I loved the writing. I loved even the Spotify playlist. But the book....meh.⠀
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First half of the book is slow. So slow. It has all the premises of a gothic novel: the lady in distress, the mansion, weird inhabitants, mysterious events, dramatic history....but I just felt nothing was happening. The mansion, the dreams, the girl wandering around....it could have been much shorter. And when shit starts happening, its just so weird and so gross. One scene specifically left me a bit repulsed, I have to admit. Anyways, by the end it does get better, weirder and action hits the roof in all of the unexpected ways. Still, it contains much more mold, mushrooms and gloom than I can digest. Talking of mushrooms, the feeling after finishing this book was pretty similar to the one after finishing The Starless Sea - that maybe I was supposed to be on some hallucinogenic stuff to understand what have I just read
I know this might come as an unpopular opinion, but I cant say that I fell head over heels with this book. I loved the cover, I loved the premise, I loved the writing. I loved even the Spotify playlist. But the book....meh.⠀
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First half of the book is slow. So slow. It has all the premises of a gothic novel: the lady in distress, the mansion, weird inhabitants, mysterious events, dramatic history....but I just felt nothing was happening. The mansion, the dreams, the girl wandering around....it could have been much shorter. And when shit starts happening, its just so weird and so gross. One scene specifically left me a bit repulsed, I have to admit. Anyways, by the end it does get better, weirder and action hits the roof in all of the unexpected ways. Still, it contains much more mold, mushrooms and gloom than I can digest. Talking of mushrooms, the feeling after finishing this book was pretty similar to the one after finishing The Starless Sea - that maybe I was supposed to be on some hallucinogenic stuff to understand what have I just read