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manderzreadz's review against another edition
4.0
Thank you to NetGalley and New Harbinger Publishers for giving me access to the audiobook in exchange for a review.
The Anxious Perfectionist is a book that addresses perfectionism, the cycle of worry and self deprecation, values, rules, perspectives, process vs result, and more in order to help you gain more control over your thoughts and actions and take back the joy of your life being lost to the need to be perfect. While I enjoyed the audio book, there were a lot of instances where they suggested writing in a journal to accompany the exercises. A guided writing journal on these topics would be a great accompaniment in order to get the most out of this book. My favorite quote:
“Emotional avoidance is self-validation from within.”
The Anxious Perfectionist is a book that addresses perfectionism, the cycle of worry and self deprecation, values, rules, perspectives, process vs result, and more in order to help you gain more control over your thoughts and actions and take back the joy of your life being lost to the need to be perfect. While I enjoyed the audio book, there were a lot of instances where they suggested writing in a journal to accompany the exercises. A guided writing journal on these topics would be a great accompaniment in order to get the most out of this book. My favorite quote:
“Emotional avoidance is self-validation from within.”
mollysticks's review against another edition
4.0
I enjoyed this book. Now, I'm not a perfectionist, my daughter is. But I am an anxious person, so this will help me and her. Now I think I need to get the physical copy for all the things I need to do.
mayhm's review
challenging
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Three months since I stopped working and the exhaustion permeating my internal landscape is never leaving. I want it gone this moment. Ever the inquisitive mind, a symptom of the coherence trap, resolved my mind to climb down history’s ladders and recount my history. I expect it to prove answers to my dilemma. One step. Two steps. There’s a bus stop in periphery. As I steel my step in this direction, the voices grow in frequency. I let on. I finally boarded the vehicle that will take me into the neighborhood of my mind. It’s not 10 minutes and I arrive at the meticulously hidden birthplace. A cocoon of childhood playthings, failures, successes, and aspirations. I steeled my feet to walk. Breathe.
As I cross the pedestrian, I saw the solitary desk I sat in the classroom. Lo and behold, the flashbacks of the achiever and the fear of fucking up ensued. The next street did not disappoint! Where the obnoxious, capitalistic leaders of my previous companies waved their cantankerous egos.
A huge relief came in the face of an empty lot at the end of the boundary. I planted my feet in the grassy land. Breathe. I open my notebook and write down what this short trip proved to me.
I am a Perfectionist. An anxious one at that. I have practiced Avoidance in all of my commitments on the workplace, on my relationships, and on myself. The inner mind critic is cruel and unforgiving; that I am useless, worthless, an impostor, a failed programmer and writer, and undeserving of love. I unanimously believed these labels and stories. No more.
The book has given me a newer sense of self. It was there all along. He just needed to be reclaimed from the tormentous lake of Maladaptive Perfectionism. I will remember to breathe, observe my thoughts, make space for them, and make sure I do not contend with the unhelpful ones. In this plot of land, I commemorate the acceptance of my histories.
After the ceremony, I readily devise a blueprint. I will create new goals that align with my values. Be patient. Breathe in between takes. This is a lifelong journey. Practice self-kindness. I deserve to love, care, and to live by my own values. I am committing to this genuine, mindful way of living. I believe Acceptance and Commitment Therapy will me along each small step into bigger leaps.
As I cross the pedestrian, I saw the solitary desk I sat in the classroom. Lo and behold, the flashbacks of the achiever and the fear of fucking up ensued. The next street did not disappoint! Where the obnoxious, capitalistic leaders of my previous companies waved their cantankerous egos.
A huge relief came in the face of an empty lot at the end of the boundary. I planted my feet in the grassy land. Breathe. I open my notebook and write down what this short trip proved to me.
I am a Perfectionist. An anxious one at that. I have practiced Avoidance in all of my commitments on the workplace, on my relationships, and on myself. The inner mind critic is cruel and unforgiving; that I am useless, worthless, an impostor, a failed programmer and writer, and undeserving of love. I unanimously believed these labels and stories. No more.
The book has given me a newer sense of self. It was there all along. He just needed to be reclaimed from the tormentous lake of Maladaptive Perfectionism. I will remember to breathe, observe my thoughts, make space for them, and make sure I do not contend with the unhelpful ones. In this plot of land, I commemorate the acceptance of my histories.
After the ceremony, I readily devise a blueprint. I will create new goals that align with my values. Be patient. Breathe in between takes. This is a lifelong journey. Practice self-kindness. I deserve to love, care, and to live by my own values. I am committing to this genuine, mindful way of living. I believe Acceptance and Commitment Therapy will me along each small step into bigger leaps.
roses_are_rosa's review against another edition
3.75
Glad I picked this up because it was really interesting. Nothing groundbreakingly new, especially if you have already had some experience with this topic. Nevertheless the points this book makes are really well thought out and conveyed in a way that make them very accessible.
I liked that it shows you strategies how to identify and incorporate your form of perfectionism, rather than just telling you to let it go.
I will say that it made me anxious at times reading it because I have never read a book that made me feel so called out consistently^^
Personally I am not the biggest fan of having to do these little exercises and writing down stuff in your notebook, but that is not the book's fault and they do tell you that this will be part of it at the beginning.
I liked that it shows you strategies how to identify and incorporate your form of perfectionism, rather than just telling you to let it go.
I will say that it made me anxious at times reading it because I have never read a book that made me feel so called out consistently^^
Personally I am not the biggest fan of having to do these little exercises and writing down stuff in your notebook, but that is not the book's fault and they do tell you that this will be part of it at the beginning.
sittingwishingreading's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
bookonthebrightside30's review against another edition
4.0
This book gives an interesting approach to learning about the background of perfectionist-based anxiety. I could relate to it and it helps to be able to explain some of what I feel psychologically on a daily basis and some reasons why. Included were a wide range of situations and topics as well as a coping tool called “acceptance and commitment therapy” (ACT) as a way to reduce maladaptive perfectionism. I found this book enlightening and helpful.
elif1oner's review against another edition
5.0
This book spoke to me. I never attributed my anxiousness to perfectionism before, only after reading it I began to see the patterns of my thoughts and behavior. It also motivated me to get therapy, so 5 stars from me!
jen_sten's review against another edition
reflective
slow-paced
3.0
Underwhelmed by this book. Didn't really learn anything new.